Who are some vidya characters with borderline personality disorder?

Who are some vidya characters with borderline personality disorder? The first one that comes to mind is Ann from Persona 5.

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >Self-destructive behavior
    >Self-Harm or suicidal behavior
    Aren't these the same thing?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      The infographis stupidly put a picture of self-harm over self-destructive behaviour, but self-destructive behaviour covers a range of activities that aren't always direct self harm but are still harmful, such as indulging in addictions or self-sabotaging relationships or work opportunities.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      alco and drugs are more like self-destructive, self-harm is physical masochism typically

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        That applies. BPD is untreatable. I got put on every type of med under the sun, went to multiple therapists since I was a kid. Finally quit it all and found that I have less issue these days. The reality is when you're not losing your mind you feel fairly normal. The problem is it hits at random intervals and can be made worse by external sources. I found ways to reduce strain on any bonds I have with people by simply isolating when the psychotic episodes hit, and through years of self-discipline. If you are an anon with BPD, your only option is to tough it the frick out. You will never have real success with any other treatment. You are the treatment.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I know he's insane but patstaresat has a psychology degree and he said that a lot of these untreatable issues eventually end up with "yeah you're just gonna have to deal with it yourself" and that's depressing to be honest

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          To be fair, most mental conditions cannot be cured and treated usually with psychologist and some placebo, which just eases symptoms. I don't really have BPD (rather OCD, which is really the bane of daily life) and I cannot tell or advise something useful here.
          >You are the treatment
          Damn right man!

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >OCD, which is really the bane of daily life
            How so? From the outside, and with ADHD myself, having OCD seems to be the easy road to having a neat house, an orderly life, and the diligence to accomplish things in life.

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              >neat house, an orderly life, and the diligence
              yes
              >to accomplish things in life.
              lol

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Please expound?

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Washing your hands 50 times in a row and fastidiously cleaning every shelf in your fridge twice a day is orderly and diligent but not productive

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                So you can't direct it in productive directions?
                OCD brains don't go "There, the house is clean, time to start doing my taxes", instead you find yourself compelled to start cleaning all over again?

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Correct. You sit down to do your taxes and after five minutes fixate on the fridge again. After four rounds of cleaning you get back to the paperwork but notice all the items on your desk are slightly out of position so you spend time on that. Halfway through the paperwork you notice a stray pen mark so you print out a new copy and start over.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Frick that. Get shit clean, get the taxes done ASAP so I can sit down and play a game for 8 hours.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                You're missing the part where their damaged brains won't let them. They obsess over dumb shit and engage in compulsive habits based on it.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                The only thoughts that torture me is negative self talk. Sometimes it's hard to focus on a game when that voice in my head is calling me a loser for still playing games.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >I can sit down and play a game for 8 hours.
                Sure, but did you remember to clean the fridge? Better give it another go around to be sure.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                That seems like another advantage OCD should have, the ability to clear out backlog.
                With ADHD I find myself doing 5 other things along with playing vidya, so 4 hours of playtime is only one hour of actual play.
                And forget about doing anything, even playing my favorite game, for an 8 hour stretch. Or keeping the desire to play a game long enough to actually complete it.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                I intentionally remove distraction when playing a game or watching a movie. If you can't sit still and just enjoy a movie for an hour and a half then you've let technology fry your attention span.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                I was like this before the internet (or at least the web) was a thing, much less smartphones.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Try writing in a journal. It helps you work things out and forces you to focus on one thing.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                I tried keeping a diary when I was a kid, didn't last that long.
                Tried a second time as a teen, kept it going for a few weeks, was writing a long entry on an interesting day I just had when the girl I liked called me up, mocked me, laughed at me, and hung up. I never got the urge to keep one again. (Not counting Livejournal.)

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >letting women upset you
                >caring what women think at all
                There's your problem.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                heh... nothin matters kiddo... ull realize that someday *twirls butterfly knife*

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Lot of anons were abused and don't realise it.
                All they know is that they are nervous around girls and don't know how to talk to them, and wish they could just meet a nice girl who loves them for who they are
                And will hold their hand and listen to their problems and cook for them and tell them its all going to be OK.

                They want this from a partner because their mother neglected them. Healthy boys got all these needs met already.

                >They get you to describe your ideal mate, they get you to open up about your values, and then they construct a facade that they put on just for you. They show you your perfect significant other, and you fall for it because its everything you've ever wanted to hear, and you'd rather die than stop believing it.
                Theoretically, would a non-BPD guy be able to do the same thing with a girl he liked?
                Not the toying with her, breaking her heart, feeding on emotions part. Just molding yourself into your dream girl's dream boy, and then staying like tha forever, basking in her love and her warm embrace?

                Theoretically but guys are notoriously unable to work out what girls actually want, because girls themselves do not know, what they say they want doesn't actually line up with what they choose, and the sad truth is that your actions and words are not important, only your looks.

                You cannot make a girl fall in love with you just by saying and doing the right things. This is a mistake guys make, we think they are like us, that they have our same values.
                If you are attractive, it's hard to be too weird to scare her away.
                If you are unattractive, it's hard to get her to appreciate anything you say or do.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                What if your mom loved you and took care of you, but your were abused by the girls around you all adolescence?

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Same thing. Just easier to focus on parents cause most people have them, but your peers are just as big a part of it.

                Trauma exists, even though its gay as shit to admit it, it implies you are throwing your hands up and accepting it.

                Just have to try to make yourself see it's not reality. Just because kids rejected you in the past, doesn't mean thats who you are as an adult, but a lot of people never content with it, so they never shake it off.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >a lot of people never contend with that
                This really dampens any desire I have to be a part of society. People are bulletproof to anything that causes deep change.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                I realized once I hit my mid 20s that I'm nervous around women and have anxiety so bad that I can't have sex because I'm terrified of winding up in a dysfunctional home again with a woman who will divorce me, demand child support, try to take the kids and generally try to ruin my life the way my mom did to my father.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                All I want from a partner is someone I can be emotionally open with. It's really not fun having to hide everything about yourself in every situation you're with another person.

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              You're moronic. Look up the other symptoms of OCD. Shit is a literal living nightmare. I hate my life so much. My case is severe so it affects me on more than just day to day life like that other anon said.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                you could continue wasting space and b***hing about your onerous sadbrains OR you could have a nice day for $0 and get out of everyone else's way

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                He can't stop replying, you know that anon (^:

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                I had OCD pretty bad before I got medicated and got it under control. It gave me hell in school because I'd often get stuck on a phrase or sentence when reading and just repeat it over and over and over in my head. Same thing would also sometimes happen with other random thoughts.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                My OCD affects me every moment of every day, I can't even do anything at all some days. Recently I've been struggling with taboo thoughts, which is also a symptom of OCD. Not everyone with OCD struggles with them, but you can look up what they're like if you're curious.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Yeah thankfully I caught it fairly early before it could progress to something really nasty. Howard Hughes is also a good case to read about to see how it can absolutely ruin someone's life.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                There's no "catching it early". You either have it or you don't. It's a wiring of the brain. Symptoms can get worse over time due to habitual obsessions and compulsions, yes, but it's not like it just gets worse on its own.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Everybody has intrusive thoughts. From what I'm getting from 2 minutes on google, OCD suffers tend to obsess more over getting them?

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >wash your hand 30 times
                >think that thought 30 times
                Same shit

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                No, OCD sufferers can be confused and be convinced they believe in the intrusive thoughts. Then they don't know what part is true and what part is just their OCD. And that makes them obsess over it even more. Recently I had been obsessing over the fact that I might be attracted to my mother, even though there's no reason for me to be and I've never felt that way about her before. Some people get like that about being a pedophile or homosexual, etc.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >WAAAH WAAAAH MY OCD RUINS MY LIFE I CAN'T DO ANYTHING I WANT BECAUSE OF IT
                Damn your OCD forces to post on Ganker? Rough

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Neurotypical ""empathy"" at work here

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            What treatments have you tried?

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              Cipramil, Atarax but they are mostly for good sleeping.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Of course, all therapists are quacks and psychology is a pseudoscience.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          BPD is treatable. Google it

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          just be sure have a maniac episode and die before you're able to have kids

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          To be fair, most mental conditions cannot be cured and treated usually with psychologist and some placebo, which just eases symptoms. I don't really have BPD (rather OCD, which is really the bane of daily life) and I cannot tell or advise something useful here.
          >You are the treatment
          Damn right man!

          You're moronic. Look up the other symptoms of OCD. Shit is a literal living nightmare. I hate my life so much. My case is severe so it affects me on more than just day to day life like that other anon said.

          There are treatments out there. Not everything is doom and gloom and muh placebo.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I can almost guarantee that my gf was diagnosed with BPD and she would isolate too. If not physically then mentally. Never told me about it, though. I just had to watch her freak out over shit and not understand why while bearing the brunt of her emotions, or lack of. Thanks a lot.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >almost guarantee that my gf was diagnosed with BPD
            Break up motherfricker, right fricking now or she will destroy your life

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      self-destructive means things you do that hurt your life situation, like gaining a lot of weight or driving all your friends away. self-harm is when you hurt yourself physically, for instance by cutting or burning yourself. suicidal behavior is when you're actually trying to have a nice day

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Maybe Catalina in GTA, psychotic issues aside. I doubt a game character could accurately depict it unless the writer had it and was self aware.

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I just lump everything under " kinda fricked in the head" and call it a day.
    Unfricking oneself is a decent purpose to life if nothing else goes on in it.

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous
  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    every girl i romance

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >BPD men are supposed to be rarer than BPD women
    >half the anons on here claim BPD
    This is why no one wants to play vidya together.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I want to play vidya together with an anon too.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        what kind of vidya? I can suggest you to play Xonotic - Quake like FFA, personally I feel alive after playing it

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      frick you I hate you

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I didnt mean that I'm sorry please dont leave me

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >why are you invisible anon i see your game time going up

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      it's cute so it's fine

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I literally feel this way over multiple friends of mine, it's disturbing to internalize.

        I'm probably going to ruin a longtime relationship with my girlfriend because I can't stop having gay thoughts for some of my best friends. I want to love them so bad.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          If you're lucky, your GF will be a closet fujo and encourage you and want to watch.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Why not just date dudes, man

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >start watching a movie with one friend
        >other friend DMs me every fricking time as soon as we start, "join voice?"
        It's like he has a sixth sense for when people are hanging out without him.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe this should clue you in to just how many femanons actually lurk or post here.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        This. There is certainly a percentage of real women that come here, but I can guarantee you a large number of them are mentally ill BPD freaks.
        You can't fix her. Don't even consider it, but if you do enjoy wanting to kys by the end of it. Sorry ladies but get your shit together...

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          The few women that are autistic enough to ever come here probably schlick to bara big the cat porn in /vg/ sonic general.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Have you considered that this place is naturally attractive to BPD men?

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Many such cases.
    I kind of think of BPD as being extreme femininity, as opposed to autism which is extreme masculinity.

    So any girl characters where it really feels like they nailed it, and aren't just 2d cutouts or male characters with breasts.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous
      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Absolutely based. This is it.

        This is my mom.
        After a while you figure out the cycle and just shut off emotionally around them.

        Yeah, what worked for me is just being boring toward them. Downplay your interactions with them, because they feed on high emotion (its why they don't care if they make you happy or miserable, as long as they get a reaction out of you, they feel validated).

        If you blow up and tell them to frick off and die, that they are the worst person you ever met and wish you'd never met, they'll just scream right back and go tell everybody lies about you.

        If you just cosplay as boring, they lose interest and find somebody else to torture. Sucks but that's what it is.

        Always stifle the urge to give them that piece of your mind, because they will take it and keep it. You cannot win against somebody so mentally disabled.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I just don't even have anything to say to her anymore. She doesn't want me to succeed in life because when I do things to improve myself she sees it as a personal attack. My brother and I know how to save money and she doesn't so she feels like our money belongs to her. How can someone be so self centered that they don't want their own children to succeed and be happy?

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >Dad stops paying child support due to my age
            >Mum kicks me out, move in with dad
            My mother was evicted from the family home at 14, as her mother didn't want her there.
            Apparently my mum was bitten by a dog, later kicked in the head by a horse and survived a valium OD and somewhere along here my gmum gave up.
            Gmum stopped supporting mum in her early twenties and they stopped talking for about a decade.
            Mum was abusive to me, I didn't accept this until a counsellor suggested this.
            Mum now has 6 dogs (breeding daschunds) which are her "surrogate babies" as children didn't work out, however she mistreats them (shouting, hitting, poorly behaved).
            I'm fostering one who has major attachment and anxiety disorders, training her to relax and be obedient, used to strangers etc.

            My dad has 3 other families, and my newest step mum has a nice family i'm slowly growing a part of.
            It's not that bad a story but it's definitely left generational scars that I'm working through.

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              Let's try our hardest to create a stable happy environment for our kids.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                OOPS

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Wholesome/10

                We're all gonna make our own mistakes as parents; there's no reason to repeat our parents mistakes, too.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Just try to remember we're the new improved version of them.
                To put it less poetically, you can grow up around psychopaths and turn out completely normal because you don't want to be that way.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I feel bad for guys who are dumb enough to marry women like that. A dude I worked with had a wife that openly cheated on him and he would dump money in her lap when she threatened him with infidelity.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            I had a coworker whose gf cheated on his three times and he never did anything about it because they had a kid. Eventually she just left him and took the kid.

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              Sounds like he was probably fine with it. Surprising she didn't demand child support.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                She's doing it now but she's a moron. She married her new schmuck after putting in for cuild support and she wasn't allowed to leave the state with her kid.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          What the frick I had never realized before but this is exactly the cope that I have developed with my mom. Me and my brothers are all completely dead pan with her and only ever respond with "I don't know." I wonder if she actually has bpd or something.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Both my parents have anger problems and it doesn't take much to get them explosively angry and shouting.
          I am the exact opposite and never lose my cool which just makes them try to push me even more. It helps when you can finally walk away. You either talk to me like an adult or we don't talk at all.
          I don't give a flying frick about mommy and daddy's money drama anymore. Phew that feels good to finally admit to myself.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Many such cases.
        I kind of think of BPD as being extreme femininity, as opposed to autism which is extreme masculinity.

        So any girl characters where it really feels like they nailed it, and aren't just 2d cutouts or male characters with breasts.

        well now I need an airman edit.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        It went exactly like that. I let the cycle go on for at least a year as she continued to do crazy shit to try and rub my name in the dirt, harassing friends and family. We'd break up, I'd tell her to frick off and then she'd turn into the most pathetic thing and beg me. This went on for too long and did some serious damage on my psyche. I realized she had BPD about a couple of years into it. That final year was awful. She changed into a different person and I began to verbually abuse her in response to her meltdowns. It was a fricking mess. Before then I had a few normal relationships, none ever got as insane as that. That one left such a bad taste in my mouth that I don't really ever want to be in another relationship again. It's been a little over two years, but I've gone longer without...

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          It's crazy how some people can turn you into a horrible person that you never would have been if you never met. That's when it's time to go. It's not you, but it's not just her either. It's the toxic combination of both of you together that can't help but change you. Your partner either helps you become a better version of yourself, or worse.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        The worst part about getting your BPD under control is that bits and pieces of this shit linger because your personality is just hardwired for it at that point. I love teasing people about their habits and personality traits. Humans are freaks who do weird shit and I like it and think it's funny, I like it, so I laugh and point them out. It's hard to convince people you don't know very well that you aren't really laughing at them.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      This is my mom.
      After a while you figure out the cycle and just shut off emotionally around them.

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Holy shit, I have BPD

  9. 1 year ago
    Anonymous
  10. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    BPD is a meme that people claim to justify their shitty behavior.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe but nobody says
      >"I have BPD"
      and then just gets away with their actions. They are still horrible. Having a name for it doesn't make smart, healhty people any more understanding.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Yes they do

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Maybe online where people can't b***hslap a dumbass doing dumbass things. In reality, these people inevitably commit a felony or self-destruct before committing a felony.
          That's the worst-case senario. From experience, these people tend to be minimally self-aware and stop short of crime. Social suicide is sadly not a crime though.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            We do not live in a world where all crime is punished and bad people suffer

  11. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >ann
    ???
    she doesn't fit any of that

  12. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Borderline is deeper than that, many of these listed symptoms appear in other disorders as well.

    Self-diagnose is important but what actually matters is professional opinion. I might fit nearly all criteria for avoidant personality disorder but do I truly suffer from it or I just think I do? Second person opinion is crucial here.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Agreed, anon. I've had 3 weeks with a psychologist so far, it's been very calming to be able to be honest about the shit ways I feel.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Stuff like this is designed to have nebulous and broad symptoms so anyone can be diagnosed with anything. It's professional astrology.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        It's more that these are syndromes, constellations of symptoms given a label, not something "real" that maps 1:1 to a singular underlying pathology

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        It's the degree to which it occurs, not that it occurs. To be classified as a narcissist, you have to do a whole hell of a lot more than be self serving and kind of an butthole sometimes. It's where your actions destroy other people's lives and you break down into a toddler rage when someone insults you, calls you out on that behavior and doesn't allow you to save face. BPD is the most common expression of parental neglect and sexual abuse, filtered through different individual personalities, of course it's going to be broad but you'd have to be pretty moronic to not see the patterns.

  13. 1 year ago
    Anonymous
  14. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >emptiness
    Hey, I've got that one!

  15. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Just reconnected with my Borderline mom after leaving the house and cutting all contacts for 4 years. I worked on myself, lived what felt many lives. I was still doing nightmares. It felt going back to Silent Hill and maybe never come back to finally put an end to it.

    It's the first in 30+ years it felt I could talk to her. Still have a bunch of stuff to talk to her now that it's possible. It's truly a terrible condition. My biggest tip to deal with a BPD person in the shortest way :
    to never try to save them before yourself, not let their world go over yours, and approach them like a feral tortured animal (I deeply respect animals).

  16. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >tfw my ex had BPD
    >literally all the problems in the relationship arouse from her BPD and trust issues and she was great outside of that

    Every now and then, I wonder if it’s worth trying to get back in touch with her to see if we can make it work. I ended up going into the relationship with a “I can fix her” mentality because she was genuinely wonderful when she wasn’t being unstable, but I often feel like she stubbornly refused to improve.

    I miss her sometimes, I wonder if I can actually get a second chance with her.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      see

      stop putting a crazy b***h on a pedestal

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      They say with some women it's "cured" later on in their life, like mid 30s lol. Usually by then they've burned many bridges and were forced to deal with it in their own way, as many have explained in this thread. As someone who also had a BPD ex...nah. You should try and find a healthy girl, if such a thing exists

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You just want to be with her because the times you thought she was normal and great were the times she was mining you for information and reflecting your dream girl back to you.

      They get you to describe your ideal mate, they get you to open up about your values, and then they construct a facade that they put on just for you. They show you your perfect significant other, and you fall for it because its everything you've ever wanted to hear, and you'd rather die than stop believing it.

      And its all so you will feed her the validation she craves.
      She brings you up, and feeds on your love.
      She tears you down and feeds on your misery.
      You convince yourself that the good side is the real her, and you won't believe otherwise no matter how horrible the bad side is.

      And the only cure is really realising that you never meant anything to her.
      She loves you like a cat loves a goldfish.

      The fish means nothing to the cat, it just loves to play with it, it loves to eat it, but it does not care about the fishes wellbeing. It does not care that it hurts the fish.
      Forgiveness to these people is a reset button on the last fight, it's permission to do it again. It's like buying another fish and hoping the cat has fundamentally changed since last time.

      Absolutely do not do it, anon. You were in love with a mimic who looked like her.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >They get you to describe your ideal mate, they get you to open up about your values, and then they construct a facade that they put on just for you. They show you your perfect significant other, and you fall for it because its everything you've ever wanted to hear, and you'd rather die than stop believing it.
        Theoretically, would a non-BPD guy be able to do the same thing with a girl he liked?
        Not the toying with her, breaking her heart, feeding on emotions part. Just molding yourself into your dream girl's dream boy, and then staying like tha forever, basking in her love and her warm embrace?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          no because her ideal mate (if she wants one at all that week) will change drastically depending on what the latest billie eyelash song or other insufferable nu-celeb said.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I don't even mind the trust issues or sudden b***hiness tbh but BPD b***hes without fail will cheat on you. My ex, literally all she had to do was not cheat on me. I could manage everything, the sex was amazing, she was perfect when she wasn't having BPD moments and I could handle her BPD moments well enough. Then she cheated one me and I NOPE'd out. I don't understand how hard it is to just not cheat on someone but BPD demons will always do it.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        She never cheated on me as far as I know, though she did have a habit of dating guys in the past who were abusive and awful. I always said to her that she always had a habit of attracting drama in her life purely because she associated with a bunch of shady characters due to them giving her emotional validation. She’d often end up doing something stupid despite my warnings, get burnt, and lo and behold, she’d come crying back to me.

        The thing the fricked with me the most though is just how perfect she was when she wasn’t pushing me away or wasn’t having an episode. It was just like there was a mental block in her way and it felt like if that block could be removed, then she’d be happy and absolutely perfect.

        Another thing that didn’t help is that we got together in a kind of whirlwind Hollywood romance kind of way when I was suffering from PTSD. So I think we both trauma bonded with eachother, and she was genuinely my reason to not kill myself at one point. She came into my life at a point where I thought I’d never get a gf ever because my PTSD fricked me up so much, so ever since there’s been a niggling thought in my mind that I don’t want to let go of her in case she’s “the one”. She still kind of lives in my head rent free despite me trying to move on.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Since we're discussing mental disorders here already, would you mind talking a little bit about your PTSD? What caused it, what makes it so severe that it made you feel you'd never find love?
          I have PTSD from car accidents, but I feel like that's such a basic and common PTSD cause that my experiences might not be mappable to others with PTSD.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Laugh at me all you want, but the cause of my PTSD was Covid and the way the world reacted to it disrupting my life (I’m autistic and don’t take kindly to changes in routine). Any kind of reminder (visual, audio or even the written word) of it would send me into violent episodes where I was genuinely scared I might kill someone in a fit of rage. I had to completely go hermit, engage in a partial media blackout (using word filters and such) and detach myself from the world as much as possible for fear that someone would mention it and set me off, meaning I’ve had no job or extensive human interaction beyond childhood friends and family for years now.

            Technically, though I’ve improved to the point where I can type the general cause of my PTSD in the spoiler above (which I couldn’t have done years ago), I’m still not cured. I’m seeing a therapist about it and they said to me it’s basically incurable until I stop blocking out memories with selective amnesia like I’ve been doing for the past few years. I think the only reason I was able to type it out in this post is because I’m not going in depth and also I’ve repressed/forgotten a lot of details. Part of the depression that caused me during my PTSD was the thought that “well frick, I guess I’m doomed to be alone or only date crazies because only they would accept a guy with severe PTSD”. You can imagine how someone in that situation would react to meeting a girl out the blue one day who seems perfect in almost every way— It seemed like fate or divine intervention.

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              I'm not going to laugh, you might be the first person I've heard of with PTSD from that, but I'm sure you're ain't the only. It might not fit with my mental conception of PTSD, but I'm not a shrink and getting hit by a car isn't the same as our entire society getting hit by plague.

              Thank you for taking out the time to explain. It sounds like it wasn't easy.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >trauma bond
          Doesn't mean what you think it does but still relevant for you. It's not a bind forged by two people in a bad circumstance together, it's when one person fricks the other up mentally so that the abused one latches onto the abuser and can't see that they are pure evil.
          You are bonded to them because of trauma they caused you.

          Read this

          You just want to be with her because the times you thought she was normal and great were the times she was mining you for information and reflecting your dream girl back to you.

          They get you to describe your ideal mate, they get you to open up about your values, and then they construct a facade that they put on just for you. They show you your perfect significant other, and you fall for it because its everything you've ever wanted to hear, and you'd rather die than stop believing it.

          And its all so you will feed her the validation she craves.
          She brings you up, and feeds on your love.
          She tears you down and feeds on your misery.
          You convince yourself that the good side is the real her, and you won't believe otherwise no matter how horrible the bad side is.

          And the only cure is really realising that you never meant anything to her.
          She loves you like a cat loves a goldfish.

          The fish means nothing to the cat, it just loves to play with it, it loves to eat it, but it does not care about the fishes wellbeing. It does not care that it hurts the fish.
          Forgiveness to these people is a reset button on the last fight, it's permission to do it again. It's like buying another fish and hoping the cat has fundamentally changed since last time.

          Absolutely do not do it, anon. You were in love with a mimic who looked like her.

          And actually contend with the ideas presented.
          She pretended to be perfect for you, and you fell for it. You are trauma bonded and making excuses
          >she's perfect except for [when she shows her true self]
          You think the good side is the real her, but it's not. She has a different good side for the new guy in her life, and the fact you miss her means that even if you saw her being this perfect girl for somebody else, you still wouldn't believe she's not perfect for you.

          The girl you loved never really existed, she reflected your best qualities back on you, she showed you what she deduced that you wanted, because BPDs are born of neglect and this is their coping mechanism.
          They morph themselves to become perfect for you so that you will not abandon them, so that they do not feel overwhelming shame.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >They morph themselves to become perfect for you so that you will not abandon them, so that they do not feel overwhelming shame.
            Frick, I have BPD and might be doing this. I always thought it was a confidence issue and have been approaching it based on that

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              Don't be too quick to diagnose yourself, like another anon said there's a lot of crossover.
              You could just have abandonment issues, or for some reason as a kid it didn't feel safe or acceptable to be who you are, or maybe a parent only loved you, kids were only nice to you when you acted a certain way.

              There are a bunch of reasons you might do this. Have heart, it can be fixed, you just need to realise that it's okay to be you, easier said than done i know.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >For my ex she def had abandonment issues and feeling unwanted because she was kind of the accidental kid.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Nah I’m diagnosed, but fair points all the same

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              >trauma bond
              Doesn't mean what you think it does but still relevant for you. It's not a bind forged by two people in a bad circumstance together, it's when one person fricks the other up mentally so that the abused one latches onto the abuser and can't see that they are pure evil.
              You are bonded to them because of trauma they caused you.

              Read this
              [...]
              And actually contend with the ideas presented.
              She pretended to be perfect for you, and you fell for it. You are trauma bonded and making excuses
              >she's perfect except for [when she shows her true self]
              You think the good side is the real her, but it's not. She has a different good side for the new guy in her life, and the fact you miss her means that even if you saw her being this perfect girl for somebody else, you still wouldn't believe she's not perfect for you.

              The girl you loved never really existed, she reflected your best qualities back on you, she showed you what she deduced that you wanted, because BPDs are born of neglect and this is their coping mechanism.
              They morph themselves to become perfect for you so that you will not abandon them, so that they do not feel overwhelming shame.

              >mfw I realize I idealized crazy goth/scene girls at a young age and have unconsciously spent my life slowly crafting myself into the sum of their average "perfect man"
              >mfw I am no longer attracted to these girls because of years of terrible relationships with them but they're the only ones interested in the man I have been molded into

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                What's the ideal guy for a goth girl? I've always desired goth girls, and my own personal style and taste isn't far from that, but for some reason I've never attracted a single one. I usually wind up dating weebs.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Just look like the doomerjak, get some tattoos, and learn an instrument. you'll be rolling in psychological scars in no time

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Well crap, guess 1 out of 3 ain't enough, I'm never getting a tattoo and I have no musical inclinations.

                >I usually wind up dating weebs.
                When you boil them down are they really that much different?

                Goths have much better aesthetics and better taste in music.
                Weebs do have better taste in anime and are a lot more likely to be ok with Ganker.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                If they’re a woman and they like anime then it’s probably covertly gay

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Covertly gay? What do you mean? At least three of them were unapologetic fujoshis, if that's what you're getting at.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Women like figuring out something is gay and getting rewarded for it. The more subtle the better

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Oh, so basically shippers, seeing the gay where there is none?

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >I usually wind up dating weebs.
                When you boil them down are they really that much different?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        This. I had the exact same situation. In hindsight it was a blessing she cheated because that cut the umbilical cord and I met a far superior girl who isn't a train wreck.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You can do better. The older you get (and ideally successful and stable) the more women throw themselves on to you. Just move on.

  17. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Wait that's literally me.

  18. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Umineko lady
    man

  19. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >its a friend does something that makes you feel neglected but probably didnt mean anything by it and now you have to go upstairs to bed to cry it out as the emotional dominoes fall episode

  20. 1 year ago
    Anonymous
    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      wtf i want a bpd bf now

  21. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    man frick this whole thread why isn't it deleted yet

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >Anons are sharing life stories and coping strategies for their various problems
      >"How could the mods allow this? SHUT IT DOWN!"

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        you got it

  22. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Grimm in Black Souls.
    And Miranda.

  23. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I’m full to the brim with mental illness so I’ve been struggling with this one, but aren’t most people despicable? At most everybody is 3 months and a few relaxed conversations away for revealing they’re a nutcase. I expected this to be somewhat normal, but I was hoping for some variation at least

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      The median person is not very functional, though in different ways than people on this website.

  24. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I think this is how modern people cope with reality. Pic is bullshit.

  25. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Aaaand thread deleted in 3, 2, 1

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      ywnbaj

  26. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    You either behave like that or you take alcohol.

  27. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I'm pretty tolerant to blood and gore but slit wrists give me fricking goosepimples

  28. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Before this gets jannied, I want to recommend anons to read the book Psycho Cybernetics (free pdf easy to find, Google it).

    The book is about learning how to fix your self image, so that you can push forward in your life and be confident.

    It's from the 1960s, so no woke shit, and its the only "self help" book I ever read that wasn't just a massive cope, it taught me that I can be happy despite everything, seriously fricking cool feeling once you learn how to turn it on at will.

    Wagmi bros

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >first israelitegle result is an Amazon sale page
      lol

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I got it on audible cause i had free credits but the initial Ganker thread where I heard about it was a free link from one of those .ru library sites, should be easy to find an epub or pdf

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I thought that was the cover art for a second

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Maxwell Maltz eh?

  29. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Cloud Strife is a textbook example

  30. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >tfw I broke up with my gf and months later bumped into symptoms of BPD and she had nearly all of them.

    Our favorite game was Borderlands 3. Fortnite a close second.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Fricking zoomer.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        We're both in our 30s.

  31. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    There's borderline personality disorder and then there's inconsistent character writing.

  32. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Why is it called borderline personality disorder? Borderline to what? Having a personality?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Kek it was originally just thought to be on the border of neurotic and psychotic

      But that's a good one

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      People making that mistake is why emotionally unstable personality disorder is being pushed

  33. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Mae from night in the woods.

    BPD is basically just psychologist talk for "being a c**t"

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