I actually used it for a bit but I was annoyed that it didn't support custom tones for each contact so I stopped. Not sure if they ever updated that or if the app even still exists anymore. Was pretty cool though otherwise.
I wish someone in highschool taught me to not put all my eggs in one social basket (especially with asking out chicks). Probably would've had a lot more fun and unique experiences if I sent "plans today?" texts to a bunch of different people I knew in highschool vs. isolating and hanging out with online autists and asking the one sole girl I had a crush on on a date.
Played the tinder game for a few years, went eggs-in-a-basket approach for each girl I went on a date with. Got burned most of the time. Eventually found a a longterm GF (mainly because she was a needy at first). Living together and going decently now.
Online dating is a shitshow. There are more men than there are women and the women you mostly can get will be at least a notch or two down than what you consider yourself attractively, do to the amount of desperate men seeking sex or validation at any cost. Unless you want to date a middling attractive girl with mental issues or want to be constantly swiped left on, I'd avoid it and stick to meeting chicks in real life.
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Nah, I think you don't know what to do with a woman. Your wife is not supposed to be your best friend. You wife should be your wife. You completely have the wrong idea about what relationships with women and marriage should be. And you will suffer for that. It's hard enough to find a suitable wife, if you are also throwing expectations of a best friend on this person you will never be satisfied. Your line of thinking, influenced by holywood, is why every man gets divorce raped these days.
Why would you willingly spend the rest of your life living with someone you don't even like on the same level of at least your friends? Fricking someone and having them bear your children is something you can do while not living with or being married to them. Fricking moron.
Have you considered that NOT depending on your woman to fill the role of a best friend is going to help you actually LIKE her? Don't call me a moron you are clearly blue pilled as frick and get your notions about what love and marriage should be from hollywood.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>fill the role
We are animals, there's no "best friend" role to fulfill, you are stuck in your infancy
5 months ago
Anonymous
Social animals, and yeah there is such a role its undeniable. Some people use a priest for this role, some people use a therapist, some people have their wife do it, smart people have good friends to do it. But everyone needs someone to lean on sometimes.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>again with the intelligence
Dumbfrick detected, most likely debates about philosophy while drunk and feels like Plato.
5 months ago
Anonymous
I never said I would depend on my wife as a best friend, just that it's moronic to live with someone you wouldn't like at least as much as you would like your friends. I would probably loathe it if I married someone exactly like my best friend, but I would be moronic to live with someone my whole life if I didn't at least like them as I would a friend.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Its just a different kind of like. My wife is cute and silly. I adore her. But I am not going to talk to her about my interest in AI and the roman empire. It would be a disservice to both of us. Thats why I have male friends for those conversations.
5 months ago
Anonymous
That sounds pretty sad, honestly. I was initially very hesitant to talk to my gf about autistic things I'm into, but she heavily insisted on it. Now she's my wife and into more than half the stuff I'm into, and she loves watching me play video games (and often we end up doing shared playthroughs where we swap off). Sorry your wife is moronic, I guess.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Nah bro, you are the moron. Watch what happens if you split up. She will instantly never touch one of these autistic things you're into and revert back to being into makeup and gossip or whatever. This is why I said it's a disservice to both you. She pretends because she loves you. And you let her because you are selfish and a man-boy.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>he doesn't like makeup gossip
You are missing out
5 months ago
Anonymous
>into makeup or gossip or whatever
Never was, makeup is a passing thing she uses when we go out together >she pretends to love you
No, she does, pretty genuinely. Sad when I'm gone, happy when I'm back, looks at me, our son, and her currently pregnant belly with nothing but the greatest happiness >She will instantly never touch one of these autistic things you're into
She literally plays video games during the day when the boy is napping and refuses to watch new anime without me because she loves talking about them with me. She loves getting me to watch old shows she watched and discussing them with me in the bathtub and before we go to sleep.
You will never be in a healthy, functional relationship built on mutual love and trust. Maybe it's luck of the draw, or maybe you played yourself. But we're doing great and the whole "if you split up" is so laughably funny. >S-she'll cheat on you
I work from home and she's a stay at home mom that doesn't go out often, we're always together-- happily; the pandemic saw so many relationships fall apart, but we had just moved out for the first time buying a house and we thrived living together. No huge arguments, no hating each other, nothing awful. >you are selfish and a man-boy
I have a good life, and I'm happy. My happiness makes tards like yourself seethe, and that makes me happier.
>the women you mostly can get will be at least a notch or two down than what you consider yourself attractively
its worst. if you are, say, top 30%, which means you are on average better looking than other 2 guys your age snagged from the street.. forget getting a date with a legit hot girl. you can frick 5 chubbies/fats a week if you want but that gets bitter real quick.
5 months ago
Anonymous
This only applies to cucks who go to online dating and submit their application for a crumb of pussy. If you meet girls IRL you can punch above your weight. I have fricked several girls that are absolutely way more attractive than me.
5 months ago
Anonymous
yeah i am pretty much a shut in for the past 6 months when i had to kick out my insane 9/10 ex. i quit job too, so i just frick whatever i can get my hands on to pass the time. 15 girls in the past 3 months and pretty much only this one 18y old is thin with a banging body (shes mentally ill aswell. legit on meds)
5 months ago
Anonymous
She wasn't a 9/10, and even if she ever were, she isn't now
>not put all my eggs in one social basket
you hit the nail on the head. >grew up very emotionally volatile >don't tolerate the presence of anyone I consider boring or annoying, i.e, 99% of the world >interact exclusively with the nerdy kids and grow up without learning how to be properly social >reach sophomore year, then it finally sinks in that "I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life" >try to fix this shitty behavior >can now pretend to be normal >but, due to low self-esteem, I only leave the house for social interactions once or twice a year, anything else is just work and college
I want to say it's all over, but hey, you never know...
I do miss having more people to talk to, but I don't think it's worth it if I need to spend an exorbitant amount of time and money doing things I don't want to do like going to a shitty restaurant for 4 hours or clubbing or some other normalgay social thing. I like what I do at home and I like the friends I talk to online that share my same interests. Why would I care about wasting a significant amount of my life doing shit I hate just so I could have 1 more friend collected?
>I don't think it's worth it if I need to spend an exorbitant amount of time and money doing things I don't want to do like going to a shitty restaurant for 4 hours or clubbing or some other normalgay social thing
Dude for real. Nobody can just hang anymore. Every social interaction I have has to be based around some event or activity. I can’t even play vidya with my friends anymore and just shoot the shit with them. We have to be tryharding at whatever game of the month we’re playing or else their attention spans all drop off.
Women make snippy comments about how men don’t support each other or w/e and they’re fricking right. We never talk about anything that isn’t directly in front of us. I don’t even know what half these dudes do for work. They’re like strangers I play vidya with because they’re more easy-going than matchmade randoms.
Enjoy it while it lasts. After college it will all be over and if you're lucky, you'll have work colleagues (which are not real friends anyway). High school and college friends are the only ones that count in life.
I felt relieved when my social life died, all those stupid games, pretending to like people, enduring bullshit, keeping shit to my self. Frick that, being naked alone is what I want to do for the rest of my life.
it's always "talk to people" and never "other people should talk to you"
5 months ago
Anonymous
Well, look at it this way. Waiting for people to approach you clearly isn't getting the results you want right now.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Games that force npcs on you are shit, just get close to them and push the context sensitive buttons
5 months ago
Anonymous
5 months ago
Anonymous
This argument is pretty dogshit when you consider that for those people they not only ALWAYS have to initiate, but they also MUST carry the conversation on their backs any time they do.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Maybe because you're the anti-social freak with brain problems? You're clearly not normal and people pick up on that and don't want to spend time with you. It's up to you to change that, or persist in the doomed world you've created for yourself.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Bullshit, people are scaredy cats afraid of change, they are afraid of you.
5 months ago
Anonymous
It only works like that for girls anon. Guys rarely approach eachother for friendships like that. Doesn't matter if people think you are cool. You need a catalyist to bring you together, like both being on the sportsball team, and chad asks you to give him a ride to school. Shit like that. Almost nobody popular is a "receiver", except for stacy who got big breasts freshman year.
5 months ago
Anonymous
You're the one trying to make friends, not them. If you don't take the first step to get a friend why should they bother, they already took the initiative with their friends. Also, if you sign up for a gym and start going consistently you'll see the same people. Eventually you can ask them for a spot or to work in on a barbell or machine and you can introduce yourself then.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>t. Mike
5 months ago
Anonymous
It's because you're ugly. Attractive people don't have to approach others, even for friendship.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Ehhh both has pros and cons my friend.
Case in point, attractive people tend to attract unwanted attention AND competition at the same time, not that they intended to compete or draw attention in the first place.
Because I don't have family or close friends and I'm tired of being alone every single days of my life
See above. Compared to that sometimes just telling everyone to frick off is better for yourself, especially if you're not of the same mind/personality/type as most of everyone else that you know.
Like imagine being friends with a bunch of dudes but all they do is dump their drama and stress on you everytime you meet, but you, being the private introvert you are, just end up listening and listening and soaking all that shit up everytime you meet.
TLDR Loneliness CAN sometimes be more peaceful than having people around.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>waiting in line >some dude staring at you because his girlfriend liked you
5 months ago
Anonymous
That's reasonable, because men by themselves won't automatically harbor animosity towards one another by default just because one is better looking than the other.
This isn't the case for women.
Women are basically living a real life battle royale every day of their lives, until they finally lock down a permanent relationship, but even then the battle royale doesn't really stop until they die.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>being attractive has pros and cons
You're actually delusional, being attractive is only a positive thing and it has a positive impact on basically every single aspect of your life.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>only a positive thing
Not in the presence of envious people, no.
Envy isn't one of the seven deadly sins for no reason anon.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Because you are the one b***hing about it.
Not to mention if that's how you live your life, expecting everything falling into your hands then you are in a rude awakening after college.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Careful with that redpill.
5 months ago
Anonymous
5 months ago
Anonymous
You're not female. You don't have innate worth to this society.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Only attractive people get to benefit from that, and even then mostly just attractive women. Suck it up and start working at your social skills or be stuck as a loser with no relationships for your entire life, these are your only choices.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Because you can control yourself but you can't control others. If you truly wish to make a change, you have to be the one to catalyze it. Waiting for things to fall in your lap is a prime way to have nothing happen in your life.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>all these normalgays seething at the redpill
You frickers make it too easy for /LULZ/ to shape modern culture.
5 months ago
Anonymous
why the frick would a normalgay want to talk to me when they already have friends
5 months ago
Anonymous
Kind of. Men want the truth and more woke up over time quickly in the last few years, it was destined to happen. Even if the typical Reddit gay wants to bury his head and insist "uhh y-you act and think like an incel thats w-why you dont get girls bro!" while Reddit is the bastion of failed permavirgins
That's how you get "college friends" ie people who only talk to you in college about college related things and maybe shared interests to not get bored and then forget you exist the moment classes are over to hang out with their real friends they made when they were kids
5 months ago
Anonymous
What the frick are you even talking about? Why the frick would you want to be close to another person that is not your own family? Friends are for fun and pass time, your friends are not your wife.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Because I don't have family or close friends and I'm tired of being alone every single days of my life
5 months ago
Anonymous
Get a boyfriend, not kidding
5 months ago
Anonymous
So fricking wrong and ass backwards. You should have friends who you have deep conversations with, speculate on life, give eachother advice, have fun together etc. Stop trying to make your wife fill that role. Women are generally moronic and not capable of it. And you will be put into a weak position where she has all the power in the relationship if you depend on a woman for sex, love, AND friendship. Having male friends is so important, and these connections are probably going to be deeper than what you have with a wife, if you're doing it right.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>implying I never had male friends
Yeah we talked about reality, continuously debated about the nature of life and shit like that, but being close to them? Never, they don't need to know what I feel, they are my friends and they are not there to ease my burden.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>they are my friends and they are not there to ease my burden.
anon you're breaking my frickin heart dude
that is one of the many things that good friends do for each other
5 months ago
Anonymous
They help heal by having fun and being sillyfricks all day, but everyone knows feelings are not part of the friendship, I would feel like shit if they ever realize how fricked up I am.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Yeah bro, friends can ease your burden. You have to know how to not be a whiney b***h, and throw every little problem on someone else. But sometimes life really can overwhelm you and it helps to have someone to talk to. You can show a little weakness to male friends. You are much better off showing them a little weakness, while maintaining an image of invulnerability toward your wife.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Pretending to not feel in front of a woman is the worst thing you can do, they were molded by their feelings and can read easily read you, what you need to show them is how you overcome life, that's when they know you are worth it
5 months ago
Anonymous
>deep conversations with, speculate on life
Friends tried this with me a few times. I genuinely dont care or have any thoughts on these high or philosophical topics. People infinitely smarter than me spent their entire lives trying to find these answers and failed. It would be a waste of my time to try.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Okay maybe you should be friends with women then.
Philosophy isnt going to ultimately present one correct way to live, its about figuring out the principles that you yourself should live by so as to maximize your own satisfaction and get good outcomes.
5 months ago
Anonymous
That shit is real. I had quite a few "college friends" like that. I think if I had been a little more willing to put myself out there and ask them to do shit with me they could have become real friends though.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Yep nail on the head.
If you didn't make friends as a kid and maintain those friendships you're fricked.
5 months ago
Anonymous
This. I’ve lived in multiple cities across the US, and the most loyal and trustworthy people in my life remain my sister, my aunt, and my two friends who I met in 2nd and 5th grade, respectively.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Yep nail on the head.
If you didn't make friends as a kid and maintain those friendships you're fricked.
>everyone leaves
Just talk to someone, ask them about homework or some shit, continue doing that and you'll get a friend
>not put all my eggs in one social basket
you hit the nail on the head. >grew up very emotionally volatile >don't tolerate the presence of anyone I consider boring or annoying, i.e, 99% of the world >interact exclusively with the nerdy kids and grow up without learning how to be properly social >reach sophomore year, then it finally sinks in that "I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life" >try to fix this shitty behavior >can now pretend to be normal >but, due to low self-esteem, I only leave the house for social interactions once or twice a year, anything else is just work and college
I want to say it's all over, but hey, you never know...
lol homie it's not hard at all, you just have to talk to them and hang out with them. how do you go to multiple places and cities and not make friends?
people saying you can't make friends after college are coping, people make friends as they get old all the time
5 months ago
Anonymous
>graduated last year >it's true
What the frick was it all for?
The only way to make friends in college are one of two things >join a club/organization/sport/group etc. >go to parties and talk to people there
If you can't find parties or people hosting them, join a group/activity. If you do the first bullet point, you get better access to more of bullet point two. It's a snowball effect.
I wish I ended up in the nerd group. All I hung out with were weedlmaos and drunk morons, ended up somewhat normal and now I have no friends. All I do is work and dick around with vidya and technology.
>don't tolerate the presence of anyone I consider boring or annoying i.e. 99% of the world
You sound toxic, narcissistic, and you might have bipolar disorder. Got get diagnosed by a psychiatrist, get meds, and go to therapy.
It's never too late to turn it around. I was a recluse autist up until 28 but now I have a GF, pretty big network of friends and get to travel and do fun shit with them regularly. Keep reaching out to people you find cool and it'll work out eventually, even if you feel like a loser moron the entire time.
It's never too late to turn it around. I was a recluse autist up until 28 but now I have a GF, pretty big network of friends and get to travel and do fun shit with them regularly. Keep reaching out to people you find cool and it'll work out eventually, even if you feel like a loser moron the entire time.
It's only over if you make it so. I know people well into their 50s and 60s who still party every weekend and get laid. Failure is only what happens when you give up.
It's actually very hellish to keep up with multiple groups of people or atleast I can't handle that personally.
I remember having weekends off and 3 groups of friends from different parts of my life (school, work, sportsclub) demanded all of it when I really just wanted to play vidya and zone out solo.
Eventually I just gradually stopped hanging out with 2 of the groups and even with my current group, I only talk to 2 or 3 bros at most, I might be too autistic to realise what I had but I hate not having time alone.
I put all my eggs in one basket per category, best friend I met 20 years ago, then wife I met 17 years ago. Other buddies I had didnt stick with me, and the other three girls I dated werent wife worthy. Weirdos online are cool bros sometimes so its all good there. You missed out but you can still make it.
>me and my chad friend stalk 2 girls for 2 weeks >1 is a bombshell the other one is kinda dumpy >had no success with women by 17 >no way i can land the hot one >we talk and they give us their numbers >the hot ones eyes were glued to my friend the entire time >my friend focuses on the dumpy one because the hot one was boring according to him >i start talking to the hot one >oh shit she watches anime and plays JRPGs like me >she actually calls me randomly throughout the day and always asks how my day went >i take this as a sign that shes into me >ask her to go out with me to watch a movie >she asks if my buddy is coming along >i lash out on her like a moron because how dare she love my handsome friend and not me >she cries on the phone and in my face a few days later when i bump into her >tfw i still think about it to this day
i blame my terrible luck with women on that encounter, the universe is punishing me for what i did to her.
i dont blame my friend at all, he wasnt even pursuing the girl by the time me and her got close.
There will be other hot girls you can talk to about JRPGs and anime. Don't put the situation on a pedestal. Literally look at every hot cosplayer out there that goes to anime and vidya conventions and I guarantee you could have the same convos with them.
i know there is plenty of fish in the sea, i just feel guilty for snapping at her like that.
Nah you dodged a bullet. That prostitute was just using you to get near chad. Happened to me. Life sucks.
i feel like that girl actually thought of me as a friend, she used to check in on me regularly and even brought some home made food to my place a few times, this has quite literally never happened to me before or since.
>she used to check in on me regularly and even brought some home made food to my place a few times, this has quite literally never happened to me before or since.
Now be honest with me, anon, was your friend an actual pussy-slaying chad? Or are you just saying he was decent looking? Because if he was a true chad, then yes, women WILL do anything in their power to creep into chad's social circle in order to get closer to chad. They'll dote on Chad's friends, talk to chad's friends, but the only thing these prostitutes want is Chad. Not you. Chad.
at one point he was seeing 2 girls at the same time, they found out about eachother and STILL kept it pushing.
so yes i would say he was slaying pussy
>i dont blame my friend at all
right i know the blame is on me for feeling that way but i cant help it. i know its immature but im too bitter to get over it
ive been through that phase too, i dont know how old you are anon but i am pushing 30. i had alot of time to think this shit over and ive come to the conclusion that i shouldn't fixate on what the chad thunderwieners are getting away with because ill never be that guy, but good news is you can use some of their tactics to your advantage even if you do look like a troll.
5 months ago
Anonymous
>so yes i would say he was slaying pussy
I figured. I was in a similar situation that you were in when I was in high school and college. I was freinds with the local chad because I was the only person on campus that played some random star wars game he liked so we would hang out at school a lot. And when I say this guy was a chad, I mean it. He would bring home a random girl from school almost every day and frick the shit out of her. Some girls he only had like 1 class with, some were his prime frick buddies, but all the girls knew who chad was. Hell, some girls would go up and asked to be fricked by him because they heard he fricks so good. See this is what a chad is. Someone who has it good and thus gets it better, and even better things keep happening, Chad doesn't even have to try. Anyways, I was ugly and clueless when it came to girls. None of them liked me before I met chad, but after a few months of us being friends, something weird started to happen. Girls would randomly stop next to me in their cars while I was walking home and ask if I needed a ride. They would sit next to me and a couple of other friends at lunch saying they want to get to know me better, they'd willingly work with me on group projects(and actually work instead of checking their phones). In short, these girls were acting like what I thought normal women were supposed to be: Dainty fairies that go around making life more pleasant for everyone. Well as I found out, all of these girls were on Chad's wiener and thought they could learn about his secrets through me. They'd give me rides yeah, but the whole time it's "hows chad? where is he? howd you two meet?". Very brutal redpilling experience that you'd have to be a fool to ignore.
It all hit me pretty hard. That once women get a true lady killer chad in their life, they get docile and friendly towards everyone in Chad's inner circle. But it's all a farce for more Chad wiener. Hope this helped anon. You did that right thing in the past.
>i dont blame my friend at all
right i know the blame is on me for feeling that way but i cant help it. i know its immature but im too bitter to get over it
There will be other hot girls you can talk to about JRPGs and anime. Don't put the situation on a pedestal. Literally look at every hot cosplayer out there that goes to anime and vidya conventions and I guarantee you could have the same convos with them.
>the universe is punishing me for what i did to her.
Strangely enough. I have a similar story, but with the relevance on being punished.
There was this very artsy emo girl who I thought was quite pretty but everyone in class thought she was a weirdo. I was semi-popular in class due to jestermaxxing and always making people laugh.
I asked the artsy girl out for a laugh and she said yes to me, thinking I was serious. I then proceeded to tell her I was just kidding 10 minutes later and people laughed at it. Apparently, at the time, she was pretty shaken up about it because no one had ever asked her out.
I still think about it to this day. How I should've stayed with her. The universe has cursed me for what I did. Since then I turned into a loser. there's no a single day I don't regret what I did
My aversion to social situations has reached the point it could be called a personality disorder. I think if my phone looked like that I'd have a breakdown.
i did and i hated it
i was that guy who was friends with literally everyone in high school and would get dragged around everywhere, and i never said no because hey i have friends
holy frick its a pain in the ass to things that other people want to do all the time
Just finished this game last night on hard. Man that was soo fricking long. Fun and memorable however and some day before my ps4 finally bites the dust, I woud like to do a ng+ playthrough and discover what the mystery bait does in the fishing minigame.
Mine actually does. I've used the app for some years now. When I get a new phone I will have it on there too 🙂
Based loner
why is the onus always on me to initiate
it's always "talk to people" and never "other people should talk to you"
I don't know, people are just like that. It sucks for us who lack social skills. I've pretty much just learned to live without friends even though I want some.
Oh after reading the comments to Op's post I now understand what he means. :p
No I don't always get messages and rarely have I ever gotten asked to hang out. My phone does look like that though cause I installed the app lel.
I wish I knew each one of you IRL, I'd pester you with my optimism, and bore you with my laughter, you'd soon realize you never wanted company.
>I wish I knew each one of you IRL,
Same Anon I've had some good and bad experiences with posters on here but for the most part I like you guys. Who knows maybe one day we'll all get the chance to meet at least one of us on the street. I've had good luck on discord talking with people on here so any Anon reading this use discord as an extension to here, it helps. >I'd pester you with my optimism, and bore you with my laughter, you'd soon realize you never wanted company.
Maybe... but we wouldn't know until we've all tried :>
im too shy to continue talking to anons. I had a fun conversation with an anon on steam and we never talked again. its too late to do anything about it but ahhh i wish i talked to him again when it was still fresh
Back in high school I had basically everyones number in my phone. My phone did look like that. I would also pick out a girl in every one of my classes and sit by her and flirt with her and ask her all about herself, and try to make her laugh. God it was so easy back then. Take me back.
you can really tell who's an autist in this thread by seeing who thinks OP is saying "your phone will never actually look like this" or if they think OP is saying "your texts will never be this full"
It did when I was in high school. Spontaneous plans and friend get-togethers were always happening.
Now it takes literal weeks of planning in advance because most working adults have less than 2 days to themselves per week, and at least 1 of those free days is spent doing things with spouses/girlfriends.
The elephant in the room is that adults spend most of their waking hours waging or recovering from waging.
I always felt lonely because i have no friends in real life but Persona has finally allowed me to live in my own kawaii Japanese high school and reach out to the truth
Back in my 20s I had 3-4 girls on revolution throught the week, with their friends trying to get in so yeah my t-mobile sidekick looked exactly like this
I have a lot of close friends and we hang out, go to conventions, play video games, etc. My issue is that my friend group consists of exactly 0 women, and I haven’t talked to a girl outside of work and family in 2 years.
Thats not a problem. There is absolutely no reason to be friends with a woman or allow that cancer into your friend group. Literally just go talk to women. Walk into a bar by yourself, have 3 beers to give you courage, and just talk to girls. Try to entertain yourself, and get something funny or interesting out of a conversation. It is not that hard, approach anxiety can be overcome through repetition.
Why do you think the horse show caught on as much as it did? Most adults nowadays need basic friendship lessons because of how socially inept they are.
I only have one friend right now, and he lives several thousand miles away from me. I moved back to my hometown five years ago after I ran from a shitty relationship a few towns over with my tail between my legs and have basically been socially isolated ever since with the exception of time spent with family. I work for my parents and have no coworkers.
I'm in a weird place with it. I'm not getting any younger at 28, 29 in July, but I don't feel too worried about where I am in life right now despite feeling like I should be, if that makes sense? I've got plans to get out of town soon and finally get back on my own two feet, and although I'm motivated to turn my life around I still wake up on the wrong side of the bed every other day and kick myself for being a late bloomer, for having wasted so much time. Video games, also.
I’m glad to hear you have plans anon. That’s a good start, and you sound confident about them. Just make sure you actually follow through. Video games.
I can at least say I'm not that despondent about everything. I know for a fact that I'm about to enter the best decade of my life so far. I just get the morbs every now and then about not having had my shit together for so long.
The thing bothering me the most lately is that my subconscious has finally realized that I've been voluntarily celibate this entire time, and now I keep having dreams with cute girls in them that don't actually exist! >:(
DONT make friends. I seriously dont know how it works. its unforutunaly random, i made all of my real friends when i was a child and now ive lost all of them besides one guy, online friends are a lot easier to come by however. i made an online friend recently because he just searched for my discord username randomly and added and started talking to me. We talk a lot...
i made a lot of friends during my middle school years because i was known as the "funny fat kid" who knew about filthy frank and leafy and stuff. So i was always the edgelord and sincei was young back then, i doubt there was anything in my head other than being edgy and sometimes being funny while being edgy. So i was pretty popular with nerds and popular guys... maybe forcing yourself to be dumber than you actually are will get you new friends, i oughtta try drinking and making an ass of myself to find some friends.
>maybe forcing yourself to be dumber than you actually are will get you new friends,
This absolutely works but is horrible for you. I hated doing this, at least.
But faking being dumb? That is hell. For me it is, at least.
5 months ago
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It's bliss, I don't need to prove myself
5 months ago
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I just don't have the poker face for it.
5 months ago
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i only pretend to be moronic as a laziness defense mechanism (with family members and customer service) i havent tried it when im in social situations with new people though...
It's the best social lubricant, men don't see you as a threat, women think you are fun, it's the best thing you can do.
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It kinda backfired on me with one friend. He met me in high school as "the smart kid," and after several occasions where he was just unnecessarily putting himself down for being dumb and putting me on a pedestal I ended up telling him that "I'm not as smart as you think I am," which might ironically have been the single dumbest thing I've ever said in my life. The guy proceeded to treat me like a complete idiot for the entire time I knew him.
5 months ago
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That guy is an ass and was just looking for an excuse.
5 months ago
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Absolutely. He was the type to want to talk shit about his other friends every time they were out of earshot, so god knows what those guys thought of me. We certainly never crossed the streams for some mysterious reason.
5 months ago
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i only pretend to be moronic as a laziness defense mechanism (with family members and customer service) i havent tried it when im in social situations with new people though...
5 months ago
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I’m assuming you have to go full hedonist and flood your brain with drink, drugs and the like.
Living off of primal urges is the only way an intelligent person can dumb themselves down in a natural way.
>horrible
Nothing better than being dumb, life is easier, no one expects anything from you and you even get help from them.
you're best friends will either come from when you're a child or will randomly happen through random circumstances (just try not being an butthole/take stuff so seriously)
t. 19 year old
>filthy frank
Why are zoomers so obsessed with this homie? Every single one I've interacted with spurges endlessly about him/"joji" like they want to gag on his dick.
You have to step out of your comfort zone. It isn't easy, but you'll benefit from the experience regardless of the outcome.
It's either that or you luck into the classic introvert experience of being adopted by an extrovert.
>tfw I have/had friends but they always make excuses or don’t want to ever do what I want to do >for instance one friend always has to go out to some restaurant or movie when we can just do the same shit at home since we’d spend more time talking anyway >other friends are always “busy” yet don’t have kids and have more days off than you do >one is a tease who says we should hang out “soon” but then when you ask them out they ghost you >other people you don’t really like and live far away always want to hang out ironically
My advice is stick to people who just talk to you for the sake of it and who are willing to do anything with you. They are the real friends.
I've got a lot of time off
And I live out in the middle of nowhere so it's more than enough to feed my fat ass and a family of four if I ever feel like it
NTA but I make $800 a month writing transformation smut on patreon. Not enough to live on but I work from home for my real job and have enough downtime to write on company time while I wait for code to run.
Niche smut sells. When you're thinking with your dick you're not making sound financial decisions and if you're doing something a little outside the norm supply and demand is on your side.
porn game dev here, tbh I have the opposite experience with niches. Better results from just making normie vanilla slop. Which was counter intuitive for me.
if you guys could have seen my Myspace you would have lost your fricking shit.
Remember this was like 2004 or some shit. Women were not immunized to guys in their DMs. Every DM would get a response. I fricked 7 different girls I met from myspace in high school. Specifically choosing ones from the next town over where I could trick them into thinking I was cool and they had no way of knowing I wasn't actually cool.
Same man. I had long hair and (badly) played guitar in a band that got by almost exclusively on Rancid and Anti-Flag covers at shitty local shows and felt like I was working my way through every emo or scene girl in my home town.
Now I'm in my mid-30s and instead of sex I have a mortgage and a bad leg. I want to go back.
I was a kid in the 2000s, and knew vaguely that this shit was going on online. I was just expecting to get in on it once I got older.
Now I’m in my 20s and everyone’s a shut-in autist on Discord who maybe sexts or talks about fetishes sometimes, but has no idea how to hold a conversation.
It kind of sucks because I’m in a situation where I’m too autistic too fit in with normies, but I’m more socially competent than most autists. It’s like being the awkward middle ground between a normie and a robot.
How do normies manage to make friends so naturally?
I'm in college right now and I see literally thousands of friend groups walking around my campus. I seriously doubt those friend groups were formed as the result of approaching strangers in public
unironically get into the habit of saying hi to people. Its insane how far that goes. "whats up bro" every day when you come in and set next to some nerd.
Talking to people comes naturally to extroverts. So networking feels like second nature to them rather than something they have to put effort into like introverts do.
On the plus side, us introverts can handle being alone without feeling bored, even though it doesn’t stave off existential dread.
A lot of those are probably people who were friends from high school/before college and decided to apply to the same colleges to stay friends there. Most people are very opposed to change especially as they age and would rather have the comfort of what they know and are familiar with.
>Want to message old friends >Get uneasy >Don't do it >Repeat to multiple people over the course of several years
I don't know why it makes me so uneasy. They're my friends right? Its not like we just fell out or anything. It feels bad when I think of the rest of my life and not having them in it in some form.
Sometimes I just message my old friends to see them try hard to show interest, it's fun seeing them scrable for something to talk about, I always make sure to send the last message, that drives them crazy
I've done it tons of times, and only ever had two kinds of replies: totally positive where they also thought about me occasionally but felt awkward about texting me and kind of negative where they chat with you a bit and "totally" plan on hanging out with you soon until they ghost you. That's it. If the second one doesn't scare you that much (it shouldn't), go for it.
>Having a bunch of clingy motherfrickers bothering you every minute of the day when all you want is to play vidya in peace, and they get mad if you don't go to their bullshit gatherings.
Already has that experience in high school and it sucked.
This is me but with terminally online autists instead of real people. You losers b***h about why I put myself as invisible? Because the second I put myself online, I get flooded with 30 invites asking me to talk to them about their boring chainsaw man bullshit or something when I just want to play vidya. And if I ignore you buttholes, you whine and project, saying "where else do you have to be hmm?". Bro, I have a frickin life, I am not like any of you subhumans; stop thinking we are equals. Online-only people should get a job already, I'm not your fricking therapist. Thanks for reading my blog.
I’m that guy who asks for responses unfortunately, but only because I sometimes ask to make plans with people and they can take hours upon hours to get back to me. I like being able to plan shit.
I played Persona 5 and all the other characters just annoyed me with their repeated incessant babble. I never felt that "wow these are all my friends" feeling other people seem to get.
>persona is now a shitty dating/friend simulator
And it will continue to get worse and worse because every normalgay extrovert and their cousin has latched onto Persona 4/5 so they can play it in their one hour of not spending time with people around them so they don't feel so wonery 🙁
>persona is now a shitty dating/friend simulator
And it will continue to get worse and worse because every normalgay extrovert and their cousin has latched onto Persona 4/5 so they can play it in their one hour of not spending time with people around them so they don't feel so wonery 🙁
One thing that baffles me about Persona is that the dating/friend sim elements is the biggest reason why it’s popular, yet those elements of the game are extremely shallow.
Normalgay extroverts are extremely shallow and only need shallow things to be amused before they shallowly swap to the next shallow digestion.
Go figure.
I really hate how persona 5 doesnt tell you shit about your progress toward levelling up one of your social skill things like knowledge, guts, proficiency etc.
I have gotten knowledge points it feels like a thousand times and I'm still on level 1. Meanwhile I made coffee a couple times and my charm leveled up right away. Its frustrating they couldn't just show you your progress or anything
SHUT THE FRICK UP, RYUJI! I’M TRYING TO BUILD UP MY SOCIAL LINK WITH THE SHOGI CHICK SO I CAN DO FFX PARTY MEMBER SWAPPING. I DON’T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOUR TRACK TEAM.
You zoomers need to make the most out of college. It's the last chance to be around people and be social. Once you're in your 30s it's >Work >Eat >Sleep >Recuperate on weekends >Repeats
It's fricking over. I wish I could go back in time and do it all right one last time
I’m 25 and already graduated university. I spent my years there focusing on my studies because socialising was difficult due to how busy people were, and then I spent 3 years as a NEET due to depression before finally getting a stable, but boring job close to my house.
>Now what do I do?
You're fricked. You should have partied in university. I fricked it too. I lived in student apartments. While my friends were fricking hot 20 year old girls I was playing League of Legends in my room cause I was autistic as hell. It took me until my last 20s and early 30s to realise how badly I fricked it
I really don't miss any of that, I always hated parties, full of people I didn't know, clubbing was even worse, loud and packed, drunk sex is never good, let alone with strangers, making up with strangers isn't fun either and it only leads to existential dread. Normalhomosexuals suffer the most when it all gets to an end.
i want to try it once, just once. I used to be involved in a huge friend group then i realized how shallow it all is and socially isolated myself. Now i only talk to one guy and i sometimes miss that large friend group lifestyle but i like my one friend a lot so im not sad.
Regrets over the past always boil down to this. “You missed the boat— Deal with it” isn’t an acceptable answer in anyway. You’re not going to be satisfied until you scratch that itch.
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Anonymous
It’s only unacceptable because you refuse to accept it. Stop crying about what you think you deserve, and start focusing on making what you have the best version of that that you can.
5 months ago
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They say it’s not too late to do things until you’re dead though, so there’s always that.
5 months ago
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They also say that there is a season for everything.
I mean, come on, if you made it to your 30s not being “that guy”, chances are you never were “that guy”, and trying to force it while you’re approaching middle age is just going to come off as pathetic and a little creepy.
It appears to me that you have unrealistic expectations about partying and all of that, it's literally drunk people on a closed space, imagine being stuck in a crowded bathroom, that's clubbing and partying.
I went to a house party, and it was okay, but nothing came of it aside from the fact that I went on a date one time (nothing came of that either because our schedules conflicted). Honestly, I feel the thing that fricked me the hardest was the depression I fell into around the time of my graduation. I think the fact I was in a long distance relationship was the only reason I didn’t rope during this period.
I just feel mentally scarred. Like, even once I get those things, I’ll be too traumatised and have too much mental baggage to fully appreciate it.
It seems like my life started out with such promise, but since I became a teenager, it was just one hardship after another.
yes it's a STEM degree. should get into tech or medicine btw?
Yes. I went back at 28 and found it entirely worth it. If you truly want a degree, can afford it and are willing to put in the effort, it's literally never too late.
what about jobs? will you make as much as everyone else your age or will you have to be competing against 22 year olds?
24 isnt too old. I wouldnt go back in my 30s but shit Black person you will be fine.
thanks. idk why but I feel really old at 24. like my life is over
>what about jobs? will you make as much as everyone else your age or will you have to be competing against 22 year olds?
I honestly couldn't care less either way and would advise you do the same. Worry more about looking out for number one than being number one. I'm not telling you to settle for less than you deserve in negotiations, to be clear.
>idk why but I feel really old at 24. like my life is over
If you're anything like me the feeling will mostly pass and occasionally come back over time, but I hope you realize soon that it is truly only over when you say it is. Fight those negative thoughts.
Yes. I went back at 28 and found it entirely worth it. If you truly want a degree, can afford it and are willing to put in the effort, it's literally never too late.
I went after I got out of the military, at 26. I was never much of the partying type, I didn’t want to blow the GI Bill, and I had a part time job that I worked on weekends, so I didn’t have anything resembling the typical college experience, outside going bar hopping with my roommate and his friends on a few holidays (usually Halloween). If you’re anything like me, you’ll generally just find yourself annoyed at all these soft dipshits who don’t even know how to run a washing machine, because they’ve been waited on by their mothers until the day they left for college.
Things likely wouldn't have turned out much different, life comes at everyone fast. Everyone always goes their separate ways. I've only ever had a handful of friends and now one is dead, the other is terminally offline, and the last is terminally married and won't go 5 feet without smelling his wife/dogs farts so he's essentially dead too.
Sometimes you just roll the dice badly. I had a friendship group of nerds guys from high school. We used to play WoW together back in 2005 and ride out bikes around the local park. There was 4 of us. We all grew apart after we turned 20 because of them doing drugs or diverging interests. All 3 of them thought video games were for losers while I stayed enjoying them. I'm 32 now and we haven't spoken for years. I often wonder whether they became losers or whether I just never grew up and I am the loser
The funny thing is that one of my elementary/junior high/high school friends who I drifted away from because he became a Coke dealer eventually came back around after he mellowed out. He’s married now, has a kid, and he’s now asking my recommendations for nerd shit that he can enjoy with his daughter that he. We even work together now, we saw Godzilla Minus One together a few weeks back, and I even got him into Mystery Science Theater 3000. Good dude.
in college it felt like all my classmates knew 10x as much as I did and any conversation they had I felt lost in.
Going from top marks in most high school classes to barely scraping by while others seem to be doing alright... that shit is what turned the anxious teen into the depressed man I am today.
>any conversation they had I felt lost in.
Maybe you are autistic or introverted. Lots of normies gain energy by being around people but introverts lose energy by being around people.
oh definitely that to a degree, but they would get into a discussion about server architecture and shit whereas my "computer guy" knowledge was limited to googling a problem or clicking the button that seems to be the most pertinent. I could talk with people fine in high school because I could contribute. I often felt like a literal moron in college.
Years of verbal and physical abuse by my religious, schizo father have left me with brain traumas, and I spent high school homeschooled, which made me become a friendless loner. I'm still trying to improve; don't get me wrong. I talk during my web development classes in college and such, but I don't see any results beyond that. Additionally, I stutter a bit because of my social anxiety. People think I'm completely normal and confident for 30 minutes, and then they see me struggling. It's weird for them and depressing for me.
I did everything I could to make friends in college but the best I got was meeting a girl who just used me as an emotional tampon between boyfriends and otherwise refused to speak to me.
I'm 30 now and my social life consists of sending things to my annoyingly busy friend I haven't actually hung out with in two years.
You should know, once you become an adult, 'friends' are basically the bottom of the pile. Your life becomes family and your significant other. >Pic rel
maybe if you are goy cattle. My wife could never replace my friends. She doesn't have the IQ or the sense of humor, or the honesty, she doesnt "get me" like my friends do.
Nah, I think you don't know what to do with a woman. Your wife is not supposed to be your best friend. You wife should be your wife. You completely have the wrong idea about what relationships with women and marriage should be. And you will suffer for that. It's hard enough to find a suitable wife, if you are also throwing expectations of a best friend on this person you will never be satisfied. Your line of thinking, influenced by holywood, is why every man gets divorce raped these days.
Nah if anything my wife is more like how I would treat a daughter. And its a great and happy relationship because I am not a moron who tells his wife all his problems, or expects endless entertainment from her, or tries to make her give a shit about the things that interest me. Pro tip they are never actually going to be interested in the shit that is interesting to you. They will fake it because they love you, but ultimately you are just being selfish.
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>great and happy >doesn't share anything with his wife >she probably sees him as a blackbox that outputs money
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We do talk plenty. We have dinner together and sleep in the same bed for fricks sake. But there are conversations that I am not going to have with her, which I would rather have with a friend. Stop trying to make it sound like I am proposing something weird. You are are the weird frick who thinks its a good idea not to have any friends and make one woman your lover, your wife, your best friend, your therapist, your entertainment etc. Your idea of what marriage should be is extremely unhealthy and gay.
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>She doesn't have the IQ or the sense of humor, or the honesty, she doesnt "get me" like my friends do. >she doesn't have the IQ >or sense of humor >she doesn't get me
You don't sound happy, at all, I hate my wife and my opinion is not even close as bad as yours about your wife.
5 months ago
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See I think mine is great. I think you have completely unreasonable expectations and don't really understand women. They are like puppies or kitten or children. I don't expect my wife to also be like a cool bro I play video games with. I actually expect her to be a woman.
5 months ago
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>I think mine is great
First thing you did was b***h about her, call her a moron and say your friends give better head.
5 months ago
Anonymous
nah youre just not capable of grasping nuance. Enjoy your divorce rape kiddo
5 months ago
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>divorce rape
lol
The only thing I'd lose would be her, I would be devastated, but I would be set for life if that happened, sorry not sorry your low IQ wife has you by the balls.
5 months ago
Anonymous
yeah youll lose her and be all sad and crying and thinking about killing yourself, and have no solid friends to tell you to get over it, forget about that b***h, and take you out drinking or whatever. Truly you have it all figured out kek
5 months ago
Anonymous
>yyyyyou have no friends
Except I do, but they are that, my friends, they live their life in parallel, like a hunting party, I love those morons.
5 months ago
Anonymous
This is the kind of behavior that pushes women to go "partying with the girls".
Your wife and yourself are meant to do everything together. Your friends will never be more important than your wife or kids lol
Online dating is a shitshow. There are more men than there are women and the women you mostly can get will be at least a notch or two down than what you consider yourself attractively, do to the amount of desperate men seeking sex or validation at any cost. Unless you want to date a middling attractive girl with mental issues or want to be constantly swiped left on, I'd avoid it and stick to meeting chicks in real life.
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Why would you willingly spend the rest of your life living with someone you don't even like on the same level of at least your friends? Fricking someone and having them bear your children is something you can do while not living with or being married to them. Fricking moron.
Just dropping by to say you're correct against the cucks responding to you.
This wife-friend thing is a nightmare, and plainly dysfunctional ever since it has swept society following feminism. Yet there are apologists for this stupid fantasy even on here.
does this actually happen though? do you see people hang out with friends and share their shit after they get married?
5 months ago
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Plenty, and it's always plagued with drama.
5 months ago
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what kind of drama?
5 months ago
Anonymous
Men in packs are naturally promiscuous, do the math.
5 months ago
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promiscuous even after marriage?
5 months ago
Anonymous
Men? Are you kidding? When two men are together, firing a girl up is easy as frick, even if you don't end up fricking her, you are participating in the mating dance.
5 months ago
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idk i'd assume they would compete with each other for crumbs of pussy, seen it happen way too many times
5 months ago
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Mostly, or get caught by their wives.
5 months ago
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Yeah me and my 2 best friends hang out pretty regularly and we are all married. We play video games together, go on bike rides like we did when we were kids, get together at one of our houses and have BBQs. It's great. We were all fortunate enough to be friends since middle school and have I think a pretty good understanding of the importance of maintaining friendships even with marriage and children in the mix. The first one of us to have kids did go pretty dark for a while. Once the kid hit age 7 or something he gradually began getting more time to do shit.
5 months ago
Anonymous
It used to be the norm. The lower class men would often hang out with each other in pubs and begrudgingly go back to their wives late in the evening. Men higher up the social ladder would suit up to do the same in men only clubs. The wealthy would have enough room for a separate bedroom for the wife on the other side of the house and past the honeymoon phase the two might have dinner together twice a week.
Less so today because the large majority is pussy whipped but there are still plenty of men hanging out after marriage. You have to take into account the duration of marriage. Many husbands will unconsciously drop out of the idolatrous dedication to the "missus" after a while. Even today in feminist land it's normal for men to hang out without their wives after, say, ten years of marriage.
What the frick does America have to do with anything, you schizo?
5 months ago
Anonymous
Reread his post, idiot. American mindeset.
5 months ago
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>your friends will never be more important than your wife or kids
aaaah save me, save me from the bloodthirsty american husbands who... love their families more than anything else on Earth
5 months ago
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Reread it, my question still stands, and you’re still a schizo.
5 months ago
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Lol what the frick is wrong with the other country bros on this board
Just dropping by to say you're correct against the cucks responding to you.
This wife-friend thing is a nightmare, and plainly dysfunctional ever since it has swept society following feminism. Yet there are apologists for this stupid fantasy even on here.
>DUDE, live with your friends, hug your friends, be a copy of your friends
The gay agenda is so weird.
5 months ago
Anonymous
You are so confused I genuinely feel sorry for you.
5 months ago
Anonymous
I don't see a single reason to share my life with another man.
5 months ago
Anonymous
You have very strange reading comprehension, inserting gay themes into things out of nowhere.
Besides, the idea of the wife-friend has only become the norm in the second half of the last century precisely when we started becoming so fake and gay, so there isn't even coincidence but rather the opposite of your claim.
5 months ago
Anonymous
I am not spending time with men, stop asking me to do it.
5 months ago
Anonymous
I don't see a single reason to share my life with another man.
>hello fellow heterosexuals
5 months ago
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>I don't like men >You are mr gay
lol wut
5 months ago
Anonymous
It is gay if you don’t see the appeal of male friends, I would go that far. The only guys with all female friends are gays
5 months ago
Anonymous
Friends as in, hanging out in youth, or friends as in Replacement of Marital relationship?
Many men seek validation from friends and that's really sad, you become tribal and start thinking like you. >grrrr feminity bad
Bound to affect you, brace yourself.
Not unless you get a friend group that remains mostly single, or have couples but refuse to have children.
Reminder you don't have to associate your self-worth with having a partner or gf. Sex isn't everything society makes it out to be. Just do you and do the things you like while having social interactions with people you also like.
Lots of people just too busy with friends. Wife + working fulltime. There's a reason they say your wife ends up becoming your best friend
Not unless you get a friend group that remains mostly single, or have couples but refuse to have children.
Reminder you don't have to associate your self-worth with having a partner or gf. Sex isn't everything society makes it out to be. Just do you and do the things you like while having social interactions with people you also like.
Every second wednesday of every month my phone looks like that, Im the guy that pays everyone and these motherfrickers always try to cheat or demand more money when they didnt even came to work, had to get another line just to attend these issues
My girlfriend has no friends. She counts on me to be there for everything for her. I like it tbh. Makes me feel like I have something to live for. Otherwise I'd just play vidya all day
>marry somebody >don't bother learning anything about them as a person or anything, just go on ungabunga dick >whatever feelings were initially gluing relationship together disappear and there's nothing to replace them, there's nothing holding you together anymore >the relationship falls apart and best case scenario you are together in misery, worst case scenario you get fricked over in a divorce
I can understand things simply not working out despite the effort but still I think I am too much of autist to understand why people don't bother putting in the effort to learn about the person you're trying to spend your life with
I don't think failing to understand that makes you an autist because I don't understand how a man could marry a woman he barely knows either. I know how they do it (I saw my dad do it twice), but I don't know how someone could possibly be happy to know so little and be so unengaged in their wife's inner life.
This.
I want to explore the world and discover the unknown, but you can't do that anymore because everything on this planet is essentially already discovered, and the "unknown" is so minor and small that it doesn't matter anymore.
I can't even do space shit either because its a big fricking void, I'd be long dead by the time we find "Earth 2", and even if we do discover it before I'm dead, I'd still be dead before we ever colonized it.
Speak for yourself homosexual. I had 20+ messages form girls at any given time at some point in my life. I’m currently in a serious relationship, she’s basically my wofe at this point, cooks for me, does whatever I want in sex, its beautiful and femenine, etc. feels good, I might eventually get bored and go back to my old ways pf dating multiple girls but so far so good.
>NOOOOOOO WHY ISN'T EVERYTHING IN LIFE GIVEN TO ME ON A SILVER PLATTER >I'M SPECIAL
imagine if everything thought the way you thought, moron, nothing would get done, everyone would be sitting in their sad little box wondering why everyone isn't dropping everything they're doing to go make you feel better
Don't misunderstand what I'm saying. Maybe if you want to bang 9/10 instagram models then yeah thinking about sex or dating as things you have to "earn" makes sense, but what about normal guys who just want to date normal girls? Seems like you have to be extraordinary in some way if you don't want to date obese women. >just become extraordinary
If you respond with this then you don't understand statistics or what a normal distribution is.
It's a result of living in dangerous places like if you live in an inner city surrounded by Black folk. If you just associate with anybody in that situation, you could end up in a bad crowd and it would cost you your life. If we didn't have such problems then there would be basically no cost and people wouldn't treat it like a favor they're doing by talking to you. But no, gotta import millions of violent shitskins from the third world I guess.
The idea that men can't have friends as adults or while married is made up bullshit by women because they get pissy when men think or pay attention to anything or anyone other than them.
clearly it's propaganda about how being friends with other guys and relying on them when things get tough is turbo gay
seriously, it's like people forgot that at the end of the day, humans are social creatures and the few people that somehow can survive otherwise are the exceptions
Yeah gay = effeminate. Like 99% of shaming about being effeminate that men experience comes from women. That's the reality. I just think men should stop listening to women about how men should act. Especially modern women, who are literally out to destroy all men and believe men deserve death. I don't care what they think.
When men call each other gay they literally mean homosexual. When women insult men for being gay they mean effeminate (and thus not worthy of her hole). At least that is my experience.
I was never called effeminate in a bad way, if anything they used it as a conversation piece, and it's always nice seeing the smile of relief when they see I'm not gay.
Alternatively, when I've been called gay, it's always been to bother me, belittle me, some times even put my life in danger by strangers whom couldn't grasp me.
There's a thing for android you can download that makes it look like that. They took it off the google store but it's still out there.
(sorry iphone gays, you're not allowed to customise your 2 thousand dollar phone :^) )
I have a friend who has kind of done this. Met a guy on a rocket league discord server who happens to live pretty close. Hung out over at his house a few times. Guy turned out to be kind of insane though lol.
Yes, but not super likely. The best way to start meeting online friends IRL is at like conventions or events you and your online friend(s) are interested in, assuming you aren't across continents or something.
Is there a skin that would make my messages look like this?
yes it would and literally did at one point
there's android app out there you have to manually download the apk since it got taken down and need a patch to go with it, or that discord one above
I actually used it for a bit but I was annoyed that it didn't support custom tones for each contact so I stopped. Not sure if they ever updated that or if the app even still exists anymore. Was pretty cool though otherwise.
android + kustom
check /wg/
There's an Android app that does just that.
There was an android app that you can use instead of your built in messages app that would look like this
https://github.com/CakeKing64/P5IM-android-10-fix/releases/tag/v2.3-a10-2
there is, android only though
I wish someone in highschool taught me to not put all my eggs in one social basket (especially with asking out chicks). Probably would've had a lot more fun and unique experiences if I sent "plans today?" texts to a bunch of different people I knew in highschool vs. isolating and hanging out with online autists and asking the one sole girl I had a crush on on a date.
how's life treating you today?
Played the tinder game for a few years, went eggs-in-a-basket approach for each girl I went on a date with. Got burned most of the time. Eventually found a a longterm GF (mainly because she was a needy at first). Living together and going decently now.
Did you found her on tinder? Im thinking about giving tinder a chance, but Im only interested in long term relations, not casual sex
Online dating is a shitshow. There are more men than there are women and the women you mostly can get will be at least a notch or two down than what you consider yourself attractively, do to the amount of desperate men seeking sex or validation at any cost. Unless you want to date a middling attractive girl with mental issues or want to be constantly swiped left on, I'd avoid it and stick to meeting chicks in real life.
Why would you willingly spend the rest of your life living with someone you don't even like on the same level of at least your friends? Fricking someone and having them bear your children is something you can do while not living with or being married to them. Fricking moron.
Have you considered that NOT depending on your woman to fill the role of a best friend is going to help you actually LIKE her? Don't call me a moron you are clearly blue pilled as frick and get your notions about what love and marriage should be from hollywood.
>fill the role
We are animals, there's no "best friend" role to fulfill, you are stuck in your infancy
Social animals, and yeah there is such a role its undeniable. Some people use a priest for this role, some people use a therapist, some people have their wife do it, smart people have good friends to do it. But everyone needs someone to lean on sometimes.
>again with the intelligence
Dumbfrick detected, most likely debates about philosophy while drunk and feels like Plato.
I never said I would depend on my wife as a best friend, just that it's moronic to live with someone you wouldn't like at least as much as you would like your friends. I would probably loathe it if I married someone exactly like my best friend, but I would be moronic to live with someone my whole life if I didn't at least like them as I would a friend.
Its just a different kind of like. My wife is cute and silly. I adore her. But I am not going to talk to her about my interest in AI and the roman empire. It would be a disservice to both of us. Thats why I have male friends for those conversations.
That sounds pretty sad, honestly. I was initially very hesitant to talk to my gf about autistic things I'm into, but she heavily insisted on it. Now she's my wife and into more than half the stuff I'm into, and she loves watching me play video games (and often we end up doing shared playthroughs where we swap off). Sorry your wife is moronic, I guess.
Nah bro, you are the moron. Watch what happens if you split up. She will instantly never touch one of these autistic things you're into and revert back to being into makeup and gossip or whatever. This is why I said it's a disservice to both you. She pretends because she loves you. And you let her because you are selfish and a man-boy.
>he doesn't like makeup gossip
You are missing out
>into makeup or gossip or whatever
Never was, makeup is a passing thing she uses when we go out together
>she pretends to love you
No, she does, pretty genuinely. Sad when I'm gone, happy when I'm back, looks at me, our son, and her currently pregnant belly with nothing but the greatest happiness
>She will instantly never touch one of these autistic things you're into
She literally plays video games during the day when the boy is napping and refuses to watch new anime without me because she loves talking about them with me. She loves getting me to watch old shows she watched and discussing them with me in the bathtub and before we go to sleep.
You will never be in a healthy, functional relationship built on mutual love and trust. Maybe it's luck of the draw, or maybe you played yourself. But we're doing great and the whole "if you split up" is so laughably funny.
>S-she'll cheat on you
I work from home and she's a stay at home mom that doesn't go out often, we're always together-- happily; the pandemic saw so many relationships fall apart, but we had just moved out for the first time buying a house and we thrived living together. No huge arguments, no hating each other, nothing awful.
>you are selfish and a man-boy
I have a good life, and I'm happy. My happiness makes tards like yourself seethe, and that makes me happier.
>the women you mostly can get will be at least a notch or two down than what you consider yourself attractively
its worst. if you are, say, top 30%, which means you are on average better looking than other 2 guys your age snagged from the street.. forget getting a date with a legit hot girl. you can frick 5 chubbies/fats a week if you want but that gets bitter real quick.
This only applies to cucks who go to online dating and submit their application for a crumb of pussy. If you meet girls IRL you can punch above your weight. I have fricked several girls that are absolutely way more attractive than me.
yeah i am pretty much a shut in for the past 6 months when i had to kick out my insane 9/10 ex. i quit job too, so i just frick whatever i can get my hands on to pass the time. 15 girls in the past 3 months and pretty much only this one 18y old is thin with a banging body (shes mentally ill aswell. legit on meds)
She wasn't a 9/10, and even if she ever were, she isn't now
>not put all my eggs in one social basket
you hit the nail on the head.
>grew up very emotionally volatile
>don't tolerate the presence of anyone I consider boring or annoying, i.e, 99% of the world
>interact exclusively with the nerdy kids and grow up without learning how to be properly social
>reach sophomore year, then it finally sinks in that "I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life"
>try to fix this shitty behavior
>can now pretend to be normal
>but, due to low self-esteem, I only leave the house for social interactions once or twice a year, anything else is just work and college
I want to say it's all over, but hey, you never know...
you'll never truly be alone because you'll always have us here anon :3
I do miss having more people to talk to, but I don't think it's worth it if I need to spend an exorbitant amount of time and money doing things I don't want to do like going to a shitty restaurant for 4 hours or clubbing or some other normalgay social thing. I like what I do at home and I like the friends I talk to online that share my same interests. Why would I care about wasting a significant amount of my life doing shit I hate just so I could have 1 more friend collected?
>I don't think it's worth it if I need to spend an exorbitant amount of time and money doing things I don't want to do like going to a shitty restaurant for 4 hours or clubbing or some other normalgay social thing
Dude for real. Nobody can just hang anymore. Every social interaction I have has to be based around some event or activity. I can’t even play vidya with my friends anymore and just shoot the shit with them. We have to be tryharding at whatever game of the month we’re playing or else their attention spans all drop off.
Women make snippy comments about how men don’t support each other or w/e and they’re fricking right. We never talk about anything that isn’t directly in front of us. I don’t even know what half these dudes do for work. They’re like strangers I play vidya with because they’re more easy-going than matchmade randoms.
Enjoy it while it lasts. After college it will all be over and if you're lucky, you'll have work colleagues (which are not real friends anyway). High school and college friends are the only ones that count in life.
I felt relieved when my social life died, all those stupid games, pretending to like people, enduring bullshit, keeping shit to my self. Frick that, being naked alone is what I want to do for the rest of my life.
Have fun I guess.
You're in college, it's easy as shit to make friends
Not really
>go to class
>professor yaps for 2 hours
>everyone leaves
>everyone leaves
Just talk to someone, ask them about homework or some shit, continue doing that and you'll get a friend
why is the onus always on me to initiate
it's always "talk to people" and never "other people should talk to you"
Well, look at it this way. Waiting for people to approach you clearly isn't getting the results you want right now.
Games that force npcs on you are shit, just get close to them and push the context sensitive buttons
This argument is pretty dogshit when you consider that for those people they not only ALWAYS have to initiate, but they also MUST carry the conversation on their backs any time they do.
Maybe because you're the anti-social freak with brain problems? You're clearly not normal and people pick up on that and don't want to spend time with you. It's up to you to change that, or persist in the doomed world you've created for yourself.
Bullshit, people are scaredy cats afraid of change, they are afraid of you.
It only works like that for girls anon. Guys rarely approach eachother for friendships like that. Doesn't matter if people think you are cool. You need a catalyist to bring you together, like both being on the sportsball team, and chad asks you to give him a ride to school. Shit like that. Almost nobody popular is a "receiver", except for stacy who got big breasts freshman year.
You're the one trying to make friends, not them. If you don't take the first step to get a friend why should they bother, they already took the initiative with their friends. Also, if you sign up for a gym and start going consistently you'll see the same people. Eventually you can ask them for a spot or to work in on a barbell or machine and you can introduce yourself then.
>t. Mike
It's because you're ugly. Attractive people don't have to approach others, even for friendship.
Ehhh both has pros and cons my friend.
Case in point, attractive people tend to attract unwanted attention AND competition at the same time, not that they intended to compete or draw attention in the first place.
See above. Compared to that sometimes just telling everyone to frick off is better for yourself, especially if you're not of the same mind/personality/type as most of everyone else that you know.
Like imagine being friends with a bunch of dudes but all they do is dump their drama and stress on you everytime you meet, but you, being the private introvert you are, just end up listening and listening and soaking all that shit up everytime you meet.
TLDR Loneliness CAN sometimes be more peaceful than having people around.
>waiting in line
>some dude staring at you because his girlfriend liked you
That's reasonable, because men by themselves won't automatically harbor animosity towards one another by default just because one is better looking than the other.
This isn't the case for women.
Women are basically living a real life battle royale every day of their lives, until they finally lock down a permanent relationship, but even then the battle royale doesn't really stop until they die.
>being attractive has pros and cons
You're actually delusional, being attractive is only a positive thing and it has a positive impact on basically every single aspect of your life.
>only a positive thing
Not in the presence of envious people, no.
Envy isn't one of the seven deadly sins for no reason anon.
Because you are the one b***hing about it.
Not to mention if that's how you live your life, expecting everything falling into your hands then you are in a rude awakening after college.
Careful with that redpill.
You're not female. You don't have innate worth to this society.
Only attractive people get to benefit from that, and even then mostly just attractive women. Suck it up and start working at your social skills or be stuck as a loser with no relationships for your entire life, these are your only choices.
Because you can control yourself but you can't control others. If you truly wish to make a change, you have to be the one to catalyze it. Waiting for things to fall in your lap is a prime way to have nothing happen in your life.
>all these normalgays seething at the redpill
You frickers make it too easy for /LULZ/ to shape modern culture.
why the frick would a normalgay want to talk to me when they already have friends
Kind of. Men want the truth and more woke up over time quickly in the last few years, it was destined to happen. Even if the typical Reddit gay wants to bury his head and insist "uhh y-you act and think like an incel thats w-why you dont get girls bro!" while Reddit is the bastion of failed permavirgins
That's how you get "college friends" ie people who only talk to you in college about college related things and maybe shared interests to not get bored and then forget you exist the moment classes are over to hang out with their real friends they made when they were kids
What the frick are you even talking about? Why the frick would you want to be close to another person that is not your own family? Friends are for fun and pass time, your friends are not your wife.
Because I don't have family or close friends and I'm tired of being alone every single days of my life
Get a boyfriend, not kidding
So fricking wrong and ass backwards. You should have friends who you have deep conversations with, speculate on life, give eachother advice, have fun together etc. Stop trying to make your wife fill that role. Women are generally moronic and not capable of it. And you will be put into a weak position where she has all the power in the relationship if you depend on a woman for sex, love, AND friendship. Having male friends is so important, and these connections are probably going to be deeper than what you have with a wife, if you're doing it right.
>implying I never had male friends
Yeah we talked about reality, continuously debated about the nature of life and shit like that, but being close to them? Never, they don't need to know what I feel, they are my friends and they are not there to ease my burden.
>they are my friends and they are not there to ease my burden.
anon you're breaking my frickin heart dude
that is one of the many things that good friends do for each other
They help heal by having fun and being sillyfricks all day, but everyone knows feelings are not part of the friendship, I would feel like shit if they ever realize how fricked up I am.
Yeah bro, friends can ease your burden. You have to know how to not be a whiney b***h, and throw every little problem on someone else. But sometimes life really can overwhelm you and it helps to have someone to talk to. You can show a little weakness to male friends. You are much better off showing them a little weakness, while maintaining an image of invulnerability toward your wife.
Pretending to not feel in front of a woman is the worst thing you can do, they were molded by their feelings and can read easily read you, what you need to show them is how you overcome life, that's when they know you are worth it
>deep conversations with, speculate on life
Friends tried this with me a few times. I genuinely dont care or have any thoughts on these high or philosophical topics. People infinitely smarter than me spent their entire lives trying to find these answers and failed. It would be a waste of my time to try.
Okay maybe you should be friends with women then.
Philosophy isnt going to ultimately present one correct way to live, its about figuring out the principles that you yourself should live by so as to maximize your own satisfaction and get good outcomes.
That shit is real. I had quite a few "college friends" like that. I think if I had been a little more willing to put myself out there and ask them to do shit with me they could have become real friends though.
Yep nail on the head.
If you didn't make friends as a kid and maintain those friendships you're fricked.
This. I’ve lived in multiple cities across the US, and the most loyal and trustworthy people in my life remain my sister, my aunt, and my two friends who I met in 2nd and 5th grade, respectively.
lol homie it's not hard at all, you just have to talk to them and hang out with them. how do you go to multiple places and cities and not make friends?
people saying you can't make friends after college are coping, people make friends as they get old all the time
>graduated last year
>it's true
What the frick was it all for?
The only way to make friends in college are one of two things
>join a club/organization/sport/group etc.
>go to parties and talk to people there
If you can't find parties or people hosting them, join a group/activity. If you do the first bullet point, you get better access to more of bullet point two. It's a snowball effect.
People just go straight home when class ends im in a club myself but still
You fricking dickhead you just spoiled Lost Judgement for me have a nice day
I wish I ended up in the nerd group. All I hung out with were weedlmaos and drunk morons, ended up somewhat normal and now I have no friends. All I do is work and dick around with vidya and technology.
>don't tolerate the presence of anyone I consider boring or annoying i.e. 99% of the world
You sound toxic, narcissistic, and you might have bipolar disorder. Got get diagnosed by a psychiatrist, get meds, and go to therapy.
>can now pretend to be normal
>not yourself
NGMI
"myself" is revolting to normals
It's never too late to turn it around. I was a recluse autist up until 28 but now I have a GF, pretty big network of friends and get to travel and do fun shit with them regularly. Keep reaching out to people you find cool and it'll work out eventually, even if you feel like a loser moron the entire time.
I'm 34. It's so fricking over for me.
no
It's only over if you make it so. I know people well into their 50s and 60s who still party every weekend and get laid. Failure is only what happens when you give up.
Everyone ends up missing the "good old times" and grow bitter, you did right by not peaking in high school
It's actually very hellish to keep up with multiple groups of people or atleast I can't handle that personally.
I remember having weekends off and 3 groups of friends from different parts of my life (school, work, sportsclub) demanded all of it when I really just wanted to play vidya and zone out solo.
Eventually I just gradually stopped hanging out with 2 of the groups and even with my current group, I only talk to 2 or 3 bros at most, I might be too autistic to realise what I had but I hate not having time alone.
nah that's pretty regular, the only people that think that counts as some kind of disability are usually oversocialized attention prostitutes
I put all my eggs in one basket per category, best friend I met 20 years ago, then wife I met 17 years ago. Other buddies I had didnt stick with me, and the other three girls I dated werent wife worthy. Weirdos online are cool bros sometimes so its all good there. You missed out but you can still make it.
>me and my chad friend stalk 2 girls for 2 weeks
>1 is a bombshell the other one is kinda dumpy
>had no success with women by 17
>no way i can land the hot one
>we talk and they give us their numbers
>the hot ones eyes were glued to my friend the entire time
>my friend focuses on the dumpy one because the hot one was boring according to him
>i start talking to the hot one
>oh shit she watches anime and plays JRPGs like me
>she actually calls me randomly throughout the day and always asks how my day went
>i take this as a sign that shes into me
>ask her to go out with me to watch a movie
>she asks if my buddy is coming along
>i lash out on her like a moron because how dare she love my handsome friend and not me
>she cries on the phone and in my face a few days later when i bump into her
>tfw i still think about it to this day
i blame my terrible luck with women on that encounter, the universe is punishing me for what i did to her.
i can't be friends with handsome people for this reason. i get too jealous and bitter.
i dont blame my friend at all, he wasnt even pursuing the girl by the time me and her got close.
i know there is plenty of fish in the sea, i just feel guilty for snapping at her like that.
i feel like that girl actually thought of me as a friend, she used to check in on me regularly and even brought some home made food to my place a few times, this has quite literally never happened to me before or since.
>she used to check in on me regularly and even brought some home made food to my place a few times, this has quite literally never happened to me before or since.
Now be honest with me, anon, was your friend an actual pussy-slaying chad? Or are you just saying he was decent looking? Because if he was a true chad, then yes, women WILL do anything in their power to creep into chad's social circle in order to get closer to chad. They'll dote on Chad's friends, talk to chad's friends, but the only thing these prostitutes want is Chad. Not you. Chad.
at one point he was seeing 2 girls at the same time, they found out about eachother and STILL kept it pushing.
so yes i would say he was slaying pussy
ive been through that phase too, i dont know how old you are anon but i am pushing 30. i had alot of time to think this shit over and ive come to the conclusion that i shouldn't fixate on what the chad thunderwieners are getting away with because ill never be that guy, but good news is you can use some of their tactics to your advantage even if you do look like a troll.
>so yes i would say he was slaying pussy
I figured. I was in a similar situation that you were in when I was in high school and college. I was freinds with the local chad because I was the only person on campus that played some random star wars game he liked so we would hang out at school a lot. And when I say this guy was a chad, I mean it. He would bring home a random girl from school almost every day and frick the shit out of her. Some girls he only had like 1 class with, some were his prime frick buddies, but all the girls knew who chad was. Hell, some girls would go up and asked to be fricked by him because they heard he fricks so good. See this is what a chad is. Someone who has it good and thus gets it better, and even better things keep happening, Chad doesn't even have to try. Anyways, I was ugly and clueless when it came to girls. None of them liked me before I met chad, but after a few months of us being friends, something weird started to happen. Girls would randomly stop next to me in their cars while I was walking home and ask if I needed a ride. They would sit next to me and a couple of other friends at lunch saying they want to get to know me better, they'd willingly work with me on group projects(and actually work instead of checking their phones). In short, these girls were acting like what I thought normal women were supposed to be: Dainty fairies that go around making life more pleasant for everyone. Well as I found out, all of these girls were on Chad's wiener and thought they could learn about his secrets through me. They'd give me rides yeah, but the whole time it's "hows chad? where is he? howd you two meet?". Very brutal redpilling experience that you'd have to be a fool to ignore.
It all hit me pretty hard. That once women get a true lady killer chad in their life, they get docile and friendly towards everyone in Chad's inner circle. But it's all a farce for more Chad wiener. Hope this helped anon. You did that right thing in the past.
>i dont blame my friend at all
right i know the blame is on me for feeling that way but i cant help it. i know its immature but im too bitter to get over it
Notice how the only person who doesn't suffer is Chad, as is always the case.
There will be other hot girls you can talk to about JRPGs and anime. Don't put the situation on a pedestal. Literally look at every hot cosplayer out there that goes to anime and vidya conventions and I guarantee you could have the same convos with them.
>I guarantee you could have the same convos with them.
They will know about JJK and Spy x Family AT MOST.
Nah you dodged a bullet. That prostitute was just using you to get near chad. Happened to me. Life sucks.
>the universe is punishing me for what i did to her.
Strangely enough. I have a similar story, but with the relevance on being punished.
There was this very artsy emo girl who I thought was quite pretty but everyone in class thought she was a weirdo. I was semi-popular in class due to jestermaxxing and always making people laugh.
I asked the artsy girl out for a laugh and she said yes to me, thinking I was serious. I then proceeded to tell her I was just kidding 10 minutes later and people laughed at it. Apparently, at the time, she was pretty shaken up about it because no one had ever asked her out.
I still think about it to this day. How I should've stayed with her. The universe has cursed me for what I did. Since then I turned into a loser. there's no a single day I don't regret what I did
I wish so too. Aw why couldn't be cool 🙁 i am so sad thinking about this! Really it is all my fault! Ugh... maybe I can make my 40s worth living in!
>40s
>worth living in
Good joke
>redditsona
go back
Thank god, that UI would give me a headache
>but muh soul
It’ll lose its novelty after two days
>It’ll lose its novelty after two days
maybe to you.
its what professionals call, forever-soul.
Good. I like being alone.
btfo
There was a time when it looked like that and I ghosted everyone except my girl...she treated me like shit, but the pussygame was insane
God damn it why am I playing this fricking gay ass friend simulator. Something made me think it would be more like final fantasy.
My phone only looked like that once in my life and that was when a little girl went missing in my area and everyone suspected me
Why did you do it?
My aversion to social situations has reached the point it could be called a personality disorder. I think if my phone looked like that I'd have a breakdown.
i did and i hated it
i was that guy who was friends with literally everyone in high school and would get dragged around everywhere, and i never said no because hey i have friends
holy frick its a pain in the ass to things that other people want to do all the time
Just finished this game last night on hard. Man that was soo fricking long. Fun and memorable however and some day before my ps4 finally bites the dust, I woud like to do a ng+ playthrough and discover what the mystery bait does in the fishing minigame.
>feel lonely and depressed when phone has no messages
>feel anxious and stressed when phone has messages
Does it count if I have
>HORRIBLE NEWS
every now and then?
I never had a single friend in my entire life
Mine actually does. I've used the app for some years now. When I get a new phone I will have it on there too 🙂
Based loner
I don't know, people are just like that. It sucks for us who lack social skills. I've pretty much just learned to live without friends even though I want some.
I wish I knew each one of you IRL, I'd pester you with my optimism, and bore you with my laughter, you'd soon realize you never wanted company.
Oh after reading the comments to Op's post I now understand what he means. :p
No I don't always get messages and rarely have I ever gotten asked to hang out. My phone does look like that though cause I installed the app lel.
>I wish I knew each one of you IRL,
Same Anon I've had some good and bad experiences with posters on here but for the most part I like you guys. Who knows maybe one day we'll all get the chance to meet at least one of us on the street. I've had good luck on discord talking with people on here so any Anon reading this use discord as an extension to here, it helps.
>I'd pester you with my optimism, and bore you with my laughter, you'd soon realize you never wanted company.
Maybe... but we wouldn't know until we've all tried :>
im too shy to continue talking to anons. I had a fun conversation with an anon on steam and we never talked again. its too late to do anything about it but ahhh i wish i talked to him again when it was still fresh
Same
I had "friends" in school but we never hung out outside of school. I'm almost 30 and have never been invited to anything.
Why not?
mine actually pretty much does look like this. i'm 23.
thank god. these dweebs text me too much. just ask me to hang out irl you zoomer.
My phone began looking like this once I started using language exchange apps.
why would I waste time talking to someone who I can't frick or go to the pub with?
>she will never live in your phone
homie its called siri on itoddler phones
Sophia feels more wholesome than Siri/EMMA. They actually used Siri's VA voicing EMMA in the game.
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Back in high school I had basically everyones number in my phone. My phone did look like that. I would also pick out a girl in every one of my classes and sit by her and flirt with her and ask her all about herself, and try to make her laugh. God it was so easy back then. Take me back.
It did when I was in college
you can really tell who's an autist in this thread by seeing who thinks OP is saying "your phone will never actually look like this" or if they think OP is saying "your texts will never be this full"
It did when I was in high school. Spontaneous plans and friend get-togethers were always happening.
Now it takes literal weeks of planning in advance because most working adults have less than 2 days to themselves per week, and at least 1 of those free days is spent doing things with spouses/girlfriends.
The elephant in the room is that adults spend most of their waking hours waging or recovering from waging.
It did when I pushed myself outta my comfort zone.
i do not miss trying to be everyones friend and then they flame me when i turn them down when they ask me to do something EVERY SINGLE DAY
One dude kept calling me his best friend, I missed his "last crazy party" after partying like crazy with him for years and he ghosted me.
COVID killed my social life. I lost touch with all my old friends and now I have 0 social skills
You can get 'em back, gamer.
Just see it as a filter. The real ones will make it.
I always felt lonely because i have no friends in real life but Persona has finally allowed me to live in my own kawaii Japanese high school and reach out to the truth
Back in my 20s I had 3-4 girls on revolution throught the week, with their friends trying to get in so yeah my t-mobile sidekick looked exactly like this
I have a lot of close friends and we hang out, go to conventions, play video games, etc. My issue is that my friend group consists of exactly 0 women, and I haven’t talked to a girl outside of work and family in 2 years.
Thats not a problem. There is absolutely no reason to be friends with a woman or allow that cancer into your friend group. Literally just go talk to women. Walk into a bar by yourself, have 3 beers to give you courage, and just talk to girls. Try to entertain yourself, and get something funny or interesting out of a conversation. It is not that hard, approach anxiety can be overcome through repetition.
a lot of people here are so antisocial that they actually need my little pony episode-style friendship lessons to function like normal human beings
Why do you think the horse show caught on as much as it did? Most adults nowadays need basic friendship lessons because of how socially inept they are.
>AYO!! homie where you at?!!!
>Bruhhhhhh, you see this shit?
>Best have my cash whiteboi or I'm finna...
>(message sent) "Black person"
I only have one friend right now, and he lives several thousand miles away from me. I moved back to my hometown five years ago after I ran from a shitty relationship a few towns over with my tail between my legs and have basically been socially isolated ever since with the exception of time spent with family. I work for my parents and have no coworkers.
I'm in a weird place with it. I'm not getting any younger at 28, 29 in July, but I don't feel too worried about where I am in life right now despite feeling like I should be, if that makes sense? I've got plans to get out of town soon and finally get back on my own two feet, and although I'm motivated to turn my life around I still wake up on the wrong side of the bed every other day and kick myself for being a late bloomer, for having wasted so much time. Video games, also.
I’m glad to hear you have plans anon. That’s a good start, and you sound confident about them. Just make sure you actually follow through. Video games.
I'm tryin'. I did not miss apartment hunting.
>should I be worried?
No, life is not like in the 1500s where being 30 means your life is done.
I can at least say I'm not that despondent about everything. I know for a fact that I'm about to enter the best decade of my life so far. I just get the morbs every now and then about not having had my shit together for so long.
The thing bothering me the most lately is that my subconscious has finally realized that I've been voluntarily celibate this entire time, and now I keep having dreams with cute girls in them that don't actually exist! >:(
I initiate talking to people but they reject me and never invite me back anymore. If I insist too much eventually they ghost or block me
>tfw I crave meaningful connections and companionship
>but I’m also an introvert who values my own privacy and hates socialising
How do I overcome this paradox?
A lot of my loneliness is self-inflicted, but that’s because I find socialising to be an insufferable chore.
Jst beeeeeereee ursilf!!!
DONT make friends. I seriously dont know how it works. its unforutunaly random, i made all of my real friends when i was a child and now ive lost all of them besides one guy, online friends are a lot easier to come by however. i made an online friend recently because he just searched for my discord username randomly and added and started talking to me. We talk a lot...
i made a lot of friends during my middle school years because i was known as the "funny fat kid" who knew about filthy frank and leafy and stuff. So i was always the edgelord and sincei was young back then, i doubt there was anything in my head other than being edgy and sometimes being funny while being edgy. So i was pretty popular with nerds and popular guys... maybe forcing yourself to be dumber than you actually are will get you new friends, i oughtta try drinking and making an ass of myself to find some friends.
>maybe forcing yourself to be dumber than you actually are will get you new friends,
This absolutely works but is horrible for you. I hated doing this, at least.
>horrible
Nothing better than being dumb, life is easier, no one expects anything from you and you even get help from them.
But faking being dumb? That is hell. For me it is, at least.
It's bliss, I don't need to prove myself
I just don't have the poker face for it.
It's the best social lubricant, men don't see you as a threat, women think you are fun, it's the best thing you can do.
It kinda backfired on me with one friend. He met me in high school as "the smart kid," and after several occasions where he was just unnecessarily putting himself down for being dumb and putting me on a pedestal I ended up telling him that "I'm not as smart as you think I am," which might ironically have been the single dumbest thing I've ever said in my life. The guy proceeded to treat me like a complete idiot for the entire time I knew him.
That guy is an ass and was just looking for an excuse.
Absolutely. He was the type to want to talk shit about his other friends every time they were out of earshot, so god knows what those guys thought of me. We certainly never crossed the streams for some mysterious reason.
i only pretend to be moronic as a laziness defense mechanism (with family members and customer service) i havent tried it when im in social situations with new people though...
I’m assuming you have to go full hedonist and flood your brain with drink, drugs and the like.
Living off of primal urges is the only way an intelligent person can dumb themselves down in a natural way.
You are correct. It's no way to live.
you're best friends will either come from when you're a child or will randomly happen through random circumstances (just try not being an butthole/take stuff so seriously)
t. 19 year old
>filthy frank
Why are zoomers so obsessed with this homie? Every single one I've interacted with spurges endlessly about him/"joji" like they want to gag on his dick.
>same as every other introvert in the world(me included)
there is no way to overcome the paradox.
You have to step out of your comfort zone. It isn't easy, but you'll benefit from the experience regardless of the outcome.
It's either that or you luck into the classic introvert experience of being adopted by an extrovert.
Monkey brain wants to socialize even if human brain fricking hates people.
unironically why I liked Digimon cyber sleuth lol
>tfw I have/had friends but they always make excuses or don’t want to ever do what I want to do
>for instance one friend always has to go out to some restaurant or movie when we can just do the same shit at home since we’d spend more time talking anyway
>other friends are always “busy” yet don’t have kids and have more days off than you do
>one is a tease who says we should hang out “soon” but then when you ask them out they ghost you
>other people you don’t really like and live far away always want to hang out ironically
My advice is stick to people who just talk to you for the sake of it and who are willing to do anything with you. They are the real friends.
Me
>hate companionship
>live alone
>50k a year drawing furry porn requests
>$200 for an hour of work
>play video games the rest of the day
I pity you all
frickign grim world we live in if youre making 50k a year for furry porn
I've got a lot of time off
And I live out in the middle of nowhere so it's more than enough to feed my fat ass and a family of four if I ever feel like it
NTA but I make $800 a month writing transformation smut on patreon. Not enough to live on but I work from home for my real job and have enough downtime to write on company time while I wait for code to run.
Niche smut sells. When you're thinking with your dick you're not making sound financial decisions and if you're doing something a little outside the norm supply and demand is on your side.
porn game dev here, tbh I have the opposite experience with niches. Better results from just making normie vanilla slop. Which was counter intuitive for me.
game dev has a very different business model compared to individual art/erotica requests
My MSN Messenger used to look like that.
if you guys could have seen my Myspace you would have lost your fricking shit.
Remember this was like 2004 or some shit. Women were not immunized to guys in their DMs. Every DM would get a response. I fricked 7 different girls I met from myspace in high school. Specifically choosing ones from the next town over where I could trick them into thinking I was cool and they had no way of knowing I wasn't actually cool.
Same man. I had long hair and (badly) played guitar in a band that got by almost exclusively on Rancid and Anti-Flag covers at shitty local shows and felt like I was working my way through every emo or scene girl in my home town.
Now I'm in my mid-30s and instead of sex I have a mortgage and a bad leg. I want to go back.
The zoomer mind cannot comprehend how good we had it
I was a kid in the 2000s, and knew vaguely that this shit was going on online. I was just expecting to get in on it once I got older.
Now I’m in my 20s and everyone’s a shut-in autist on Discord who maybe sexts or talks about fetishes sometimes, but has no idea how to hold a conversation.
It kind of sucks because I’m in a situation where I’m too autistic too fit in with normies, but I’m more socially competent than most autists. It’s like being the awkward middle ground between a normie and a robot.
How do normies manage to make friends so naturally?
I'm in college right now and I see literally thousands of friend groups walking around my campus. I seriously doubt those friend groups were formed as the result of approaching strangers in public
That's how it happens, normalhomosexualry is as simple as it looks
unironically get into the habit of saying hi to people. Its insane how far that goes. "whats up bro" every day when you come in and set next to some nerd.
Talking to people comes naturally to extroverts. So networking feels like second nature to them rather than something they have to put effort into like introverts do.
On the plus side, us introverts can handle being alone without feeling bored, even though it doesn’t stave off existential dread.
talk to people in your class
it's literally that easy
A lot of those are probably people who were friends from high school/before college and decided to apply to the same colleges to stay friends there. Most people are very opposed to change especially as they age and would rather have the comfort of what they know and are familiar with.
I'm not gonna get groomed into writing smut for money by Ganker.
>Want to message old friends
>Get uneasy
>Don't do it
>Repeat to multiple people over the course of several years
I don't know why it makes me so uneasy. They're my friends right? Its not like we just fell out or anything. It feels bad when I think of the rest of my life and not having them in it in some form.
Sometimes I just message my old friends to see them try hard to show interest, it's fun seeing them scrable for something to talk about, I always make sure to send the last message, that drives them crazy
I've done it tons of times, and only ever had two kinds of replies: totally positive where they also thought about me occasionally but felt awkward about texting me and kind of negative where they chat with you a bit and "totally" plan on hanging out with you soon until they ghost you. That's it. If the second one doesn't scare you that much (it shouldn't), go for it.
>HORRIBLE NEWS!
wtf happened?
>Having a bunch of clingy motherfrickers bothering you every minute of the day when all you want is to play vidya in peace, and they get mad if you don't go to their bullshit gatherings.
Already has that experience in high school and it sucked.
This is me but with terminally online autists instead of real people. You losers b***h about why I put myself as invisible? Because the second I put myself online, I get flooded with 30 invites asking me to talk to them about their boring chainsaw man bullshit or something when I just want to play vidya. And if I ignore you buttholes, you whine and project, saying "where else do you have to be hmm?". Bro, I have a frickin life, I am not like any of you subhumans; stop thinking we are equals. Online-only people should get a job already, I'm not your fricking therapist. Thanks for reading my blog.
My phone was like that before.
Protip. It's annoying and exhausting as frick having to keep track of everyone doing something.
I think people forget that in vidya, you can literally ignore a lot of texts from these fictional friends and tackle them at your leisure.
IRL, there’s a time pressure element that makes it annoying.
The only thing I hate is when they message you and it tells them you read the message.
BRO WHY HAVENT YOU RESPONDED YET DID I SAY SOMETHING WRONG
like holy frick it's only been 15 minutes I'm thinking of a response and I'm working
I’m that guy who asks for responses unfortunately, but only because I sometimes ask to make plans with people and they can take hours upon hours to get back to me. I like being able to plan shit.
I can leave people on read for days without any shame and they just had to learn that I'm like that and there's no way for them to change me
Except Tae, i don't give a single shit about any of them.
I don't get escapist gams like this. shit like this only makes me feel worse about myself in real life.
really far-fetched games like Dark Souls where you fight demons and shit don't do this to me.
I played Persona 5 and all the other characters just annoyed me with their repeated incessant babble. I never felt that "wow these are all my friends" feeling other people seem to get.
Dude I hated it. I didn’t find any of the characters likable. I’m still surprised I finished the damn game
As an adult, this is too much to keep up on anyway
>game allows you to date older women
>best girl is still undatable
Damn you Atlus! If you had a Sae romance I could have put in another 100 hours into the game!
Queen Makoto 4life
>persona is now a shitty dating/friend simulator
and these are the people that said persona started with 3
persona ended with 1. this franchise was never good.
>persona is now a shitty dating/friend simulator
And it will continue to get worse and worse because every normalgay extrovert and their cousin has latched onto Persona 4/5 so they can play it in their one hour of not spending time with people around them so they don't feel so wonery 🙁
One thing that baffles me about Persona is that the dating/friend sim elements is the biggest reason why it’s popular, yet those elements of the game are extremely shallow.
You’d be better off playing an actual dating sim.
Normalgay extroverts are extremely shallow and only need shallow things to be amused before they shallowly swap to the next shallow digestion.
Go figure.
I really hate how persona 5 doesnt tell you shit about your progress toward levelling up one of your social skill things like knowledge, guts, proficiency etc.
I have gotten knowledge points it feels like a thousand times and I'm still on level 1. Meanwhile I made coffee a couple times and my charm leveled up right away. Its frustrating they couldn't just show you your progress or anything
thank frick
I hang out with my friends like once every two months and even that feels like too much
Good, because that shit’s annoying.
SHUT THE FRICK UP, RYUJI! I’M TRYING TO BUILD UP MY SOCIAL LINK WITH THE SHOGI CHICK SO I CAN DO FFX PARTY MEMBER SWAPPING. I DON’T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOUR TRACK TEAM.
You zoomers need to make the most out of college. It's the last chance to be around people and be social. Once you're in your 30s it's
>Work
>Eat
>Sleep
>Recuperate on weekends
>Repeats
It's fricking over. I wish I could go back in time and do it all right one last time
I’m 25 and already graduated university. I spent my years there focusing on my studies because socialising was difficult due to how busy people were, and then I spent 3 years as a NEET due to depression before finally getting a stable, but boring job close to my house.
Now what do I do?
>Now what do I do?
You're fricked. You should have partied in university. I fricked it too. I lived in student apartments. While my friends were fricking hot 20 year old girls I was playing League of Legends in my room cause I was autistic as hell. It took me until my last 20s and early 30s to realise how badly I fricked it
I really don't miss any of that, I always hated parties, full of people I didn't know, clubbing was even worse, loud and packed, drunk sex is never good, let alone with strangers, making up with strangers isn't fun either and it only leads to existential dread. Normalhomosexuals suffer the most when it all gets to an end.
i want to try it once, just once. I used to be involved in a huge friend group then i realized how shallow it all is and socially isolated myself. Now i only talk to one guy and i sometimes miss that large friend group lifestyle but i like my one friend a lot so im not sad.
>i want to try it once, just once
Regrets over the past always boil down to this. “You missed the boat— Deal with it” isn’t an acceptable answer in anyway. You’re not going to be satisfied until you scratch that itch.
It’s only unacceptable because you refuse to accept it. Stop crying about what you think you deserve, and start focusing on making what you have the best version of that that you can.
They say it’s not too late to do things until you’re dead though, so there’s always that.
They also say that there is a season for everything.
I mean, come on, if you made it to your 30s not being “that guy”, chances are you never were “that guy”, and trying to force it while you’re approaching middle age is just going to come off as pathetic and a little creepy.
It appears to me that you have unrealistic expectations about partying and all of that, it's literally drunk people on a closed space, imagine being stuck in a crowded bathroom, that's clubbing and partying.
I went to a house party, and it was okay, but nothing came of it aside from the fact that I went on a date one time (nothing came of that either because our schedules conflicted). Honestly, I feel the thing that fricked me the hardest was the depression I fell into around the time of my graduation. I think the fact I was in a long distance relationship was the only reason I didn’t rope during this period.
I just feel mentally scarred. Like, even once I get those things, I’ll be too traumatised and have too much mental baggage to fully appreciate it.
It seems like my life started out with such promise, but since I became a teenager, it was just one hardship after another.
You’ll feel better once you finally hit that point of acceptance that you were never that person, and that shit doesn’t have to be for everyone.
That shit is for no one, "going out with friends" is the most unnatural shit ever, you gain absolutely nothing aside from wasting time and money.
is it worth going back to college if you're 24? what if you don't like being around people younger than you?
I meet 25+ year old military brats all the time at university, you'd be in good company as long as you enter a STEM degree
yes it's a STEM degree. should get into tech or medicine btw?
what about jobs? will you make as much as everyone else your age or will you have to be competing against 22 year olds?
thanks. idk why but I feel really old at 24. like my life is over
>what about jobs? will you make as much as everyone else your age or will you have to be competing against 22 year olds?
I honestly couldn't care less either way and would advise you do the same. Worry more about looking out for number one than being number one. I'm not telling you to settle for less than you deserve in negotiations, to be clear.
>idk why but I feel really old at 24. like my life is over
If you're anything like me the feeling will mostly pass and occasionally come back over time, but I hope you realize soon that it is truly only over when you say it is. Fight those negative thoughts.
Yes. I went back at 28 and found it entirely worth it. If you truly want a degree, can afford it and are willing to put in the effort, it's literally never too late.
24 isnt too old. I wouldnt go back in my 30s but shit Black person you will be fine.
I went after I got out of the military, at 26. I was never much of the partying type, I didn’t want to blow the GI Bill, and I had a part time job that I worked on weekends, so I didn’t have anything resembling the typical college experience, outside going bar hopping with my roommate and his friends on a few holidays (usually Halloween). If you’re anything like me, you’ll generally just find yourself annoyed at all these soft dipshits who don’t even know how to run a washing machine, because they’ve been waited on by their mothers until the day they left for college.
Things likely wouldn't have turned out much different, life comes at everyone fast. Everyone always goes their separate ways. I've only ever had a handful of friends and now one is dead, the other is terminally offline, and the last is terminally married and won't go 5 feet without smelling his wife/dogs farts so he's essentially dead too.
Sometimes you just roll the dice badly. I had a friendship group of nerds guys from high school. We used to play WoW together back in 2005 and ride out bikes around the local park. There was 4 of us. We all grew apart after we turned 20 because of them doing drugs or diverging interests. All 3 of them thought video games were for losers while I stayed enjoying them. I'm 32 now and we haven't spoken for years. I often wonder whether they became losers or whether I just never grew up and I am the loser
The funny thing is that one of my elementary/junior high/high school friends who I drifted away from because he became a Coke dealer eventually came back around after he mellowed out. He’s married now, has a kid, and he’s now asking my recommendations for nerd shit that he can enjoy with his daughter that he. We even work together now, we saw Godzilla Minus One together a few weeks back, and I even got him into Mystery Science Theater 3000. Good dude.
That's been my life since I became a legal adult.
in college it felt like all my classmates knew 10x as much as I did and any conversation they had I felt lost in.
Going from top marks in most high school classes to barely scraping by while others seem to be doing alright... that shit is what turned the anxious teen into the depressed man I am today.
>any conversation they had I felt lost in.
Maybe you are autistic or introverted. Lots of normies gain energy by being around people but introverts lose energy by being around people.
oh definitely that to a degree, but they would get into a discussion about server architecture and shit whereas my "computer guy" knowledge was limited to googling a problem or clicking the button that seems to be the most pertinent. I could talk with people fine in high school because I could contribute. I often felt like a literal moron in college.
I dropped out of college twice
Years of verbal and physical abuse by my religious, schizo father have left me with brain traumas, and I spent high school homeschooled, which made me become a friendless loner. I'm still trying to improve; don't get me wrong. I talk during my web development classes in college and such, but I don't see any results beyond that. Additionally, I stutter a bit because of my social anxiety. People think I'm completely normal and confident for 30 minutes, and then they see me struggling. It's weird for them and depressing for me.
I did everything I could to make friends in college but the best I got was meeting a girl who just used me as an emotional tampon between boyfriends and otherwise refused to speak to me.
I'm 30 now and my social life consists of sending things to my annoyingly busy friend I haven't actually hung out with in two years.
Good, that looks revolting.
Last friend I had told me to my face he only ever hung out with me because nobody else was around, I stopped bothering after that
if whatsapp was in persona
You should know, once you become an adult, 'friends' are basically the bottom of the pile. Your life becomes family and your significant other.
>Pic rel
maybe if you are goy cattle. My wife could never replace my friends. She doesn't have the IQ or the sense of humor, or the honesty, she doesnt "get me" like my friends do.
Leave your wife and marry your "friends", you clearly don't know what to do with a woman.
Nah, I think you don't know what to do with a woman. Your wife is not supposed to be your best friend. You wife should be your wife. You completely have the wrong idea about what relationships with women and marriage should be. And you will suffer for that. It's hard enough to find a suitable wife, if you are also throwing expectations of a best friend on this person you will never be satisfied. Your line of thinking, influenced by holywood, is why every man gets divorce raped these days.
you're treating your wife like a mom and your friends are the other teenagers you rebel with
Nah if anything my wife is more like how I would treat a daughter. And its a great and happy relationship because I am not a moron who tells his wife all his problems, or expects endless entertainment from her, or tries to make her give a shit about the things that interest me. Pro tip they are never actually going to be interested in the shit that is interesting to you. They will fake it because they love you, but ultimately you are just being selfish.
>great and happy
>doesn't share anything with his wife
>she probably sees him as a blackbox that outputs money
We do talk plenty. We have dinner together and sleep in the same bed for fricks sake. But there are conversations that I am not going to have with her, which I would rather have with a friend. Stop trying to make it sound like I am proposing something weird. You are are the weird frick who thinks its a good idea not to have any friends and make one woman your lover, your wife, your best friend, your therapist, your entertainment etc. Your idea of what marriage should be is extremely unhealthy and gay.
>She doesn't have the IQ or the sense of humor, or the honesty, she doesnt "get me" like my friends do.
>she doesn't have the IQ
>or sense of humor
>she doesn't get me
You don't sound happy, at all, I hate my wife and my opinion is not even close as bad as yours about your wife.
See I think mine is great. I think you have completely unreasonable expectations and don't really understand women. They are like puppies or kitten or children. I don't expect my wife to also be like a cool bro I play video games with. I actually expect her to be a woman.
>I think mine is great
First thing you did was b***h about her, call her a moron and say your friends give better head.
nah youre just not capable of grasping nuance. Enjoy your divorce rape kiddo
>divorce rape
lol
The only thing I'd lose would be her, I would be devastated, but I would be set for life if that happened, sorry not sorry your low IQ wife has you by the balls.
yeah youll lose her and be all sad and crying and thinking about killing yourself, and have no solid friends to tell you to get over it, forget about that b***h, and take you out drinking or whatever. Truly you have it all figured out kek
>yyyyyou have no friends
Except I do, but they are that, my friends, they live their life in parallel, like a hunting party, I love those morons.
does this actually happen though? do you see people hang out with friends and share their shit after they get married?
Plenty, and it's always plagued with drama.
what kind of drama?
Men in packs are naturally promiscuous, do the math.
promiscuous even after marriage?
Men? Are you kidding? When two men are together, firing a girl up is easy as frick, even if you don't end up fricking her, you are participating in the mating dance.
idk i'd assume they would compete with each other for crumbs of pussy, seen it happen way too many times
Mostly, or get caught by their wives.
Yeah me and my 2 best friends hang out pretty regularly and we are all married. We play video games together, go on bike rides like we did when we were kids, get together at one of our houses and have BBQs. It's great. We were all fortunate enough to be friends since middle school and have I think a pretty good understanding of the importance of maintaining friendships even with marriage and children in the mix. The first one of us to have kids did go pretty dark for a while. Once the kid hit age 7 or something he gradually began getting more time to do shit.
It used to be the norm. The lower class men would often hang out with each other in pubs and begrudgingly go back to their wives late in the evening. Men higher up the social ladder would suit up to do the same in men only clubs. The wealthy would have enough room for a separate bedroom for the wife on the other side of the house and past the honeymoon phase the two might have dinner together twice a week.
Less so today because the large majority is pussy whipped but there are still plenty of men hanging out after marriage. You have to take into account the duration of marriage. Many husbands will unconsciously drop out of the idolatrous dedication to the "missus" after a while. Even today in feminist land it's normal for men to hang out without their wives after, say, ten years of marriage.
>t. Maidenless
>t. cuckold
I'd cut your penis if you ever get close, so no.
I accept your concession.
This is the kind of behavior that pushes women to go "partying with the girls".
Total opposite. Being a dependent, needy frick with no friends is way more likely to get you cheated on and lower her view of you.
How do you go from
>zomg my friends are everything, I love my friends, they know better
to
>if you don't suckoff your friends everyday you are needy
Your wife and yourself are meant to do everything together. Your friends will never be more important than your wife or kids lol
this is a very american mindset
You sound like a teenager
What the frick does America have to do with anything, you schizo?
Reread his post, idiot. American mindeset.
>your friends will never be more important than your wife or kids
aaaah save me, save me from the bloodthirsty american husbands who... love their families more than anything else on Earth
Reread it, my question still stands, and you’re still a schizo.
Lol what the frick is wrong with the other country bros on this board
Very moronic way to look at marriage. Enjoy your divorce I hope she lets you see the kids occasionally.
Just dropping by to say you're correct against the cucks responding to you.
This wife-friend thing is a nightmare, and plainly dysfunctional ever since it has swept society following feminism. Yet there are apologists for this stupid fantasy even on here.
>DUDE, live with your friends, hug your friends, be a copy of your friends
The gay agenda is so weird.
You are so confused I genuinely feel sorry for you.
I don't see a single reason to share my life with another man.
You have very strange reading comprehension, inserting gay themes into things out of nowhere.
Besides, the idea of the wife-friend has only become the norm in the second half of the last century precisely when we started becoming so fake and gay, so there isn't even coincidence but rather the opposite of your claim.
I am not spending time with men, stop asking me to do it.
>hello fellow heterosexuals
>I don't like men
>You are mr gay
lol wut
It is gay if you don’t see the appeal of male friends, I would go that far. The only guys with all female friends are gays
Friends as in, hanging out in youth, or friends as in Replacement of Marital relationship?
Many men seek validation from friends and that's really sad, you become tribal and start thinking like you.
>grrrr feminity bad
Bound to affect you, brace yourself.
grim
Lots of people just too busy with friends. Wife + working fulltime. There's a reason they say your wife ends up becoming your best friend
i dont see myself being romantically interested in a woman. but i see myself being romantically interested in a man. so im probably gay xd
Not unless you get a friend group that remains mostly single, or have couples but refuse to have children.
Reminder you don't have to associate your self-worth with having a partner or gf. Sex isn't everything society makes it out to be. Just do you and do the things you like while having social interactions with people you also like.
Every second wednesday of every month my phone looks like that, Im the guy that pays everyone and these motherfrickers always try to cheat or demand more money when they didnt even came to work, had to get another line just to attend these issues
This is such space inefficient design.
iOS and Android already do that but this is so much worse.
Good. I fricking hate getting a million texts in a day.
Fellas, is being friends with your wife gay?
My girlfriend has no friends. She counts on me to be there for everything for her. I like it tbh. Makes me feel like I have something to live for. Otherwise I'd just play vidya all day
Fellas, is being friends with your friends gay?
it used to then i became a miserable old bastard
>marry somebody
>don't bother learning anything about them as a person or anything, just go on ungabunga dick
>whatever feelings were initially gluing relationship together disappear and there's nothing to replace them, there's nothing holding you together anymore
>the relationship falls apart and best case scenario you are together in misery, worst case scenario you get fricked over in a divorce
I can understand things simply not working out despite the effort but still I think I am too much of autist to understand why people don't bother putting in the effort to learn about the person you're trying to spend your life with
I don't think failing to understand that makes you an autist because I don't understand how a man could marry a woman he barely knows either. I know how they do it (I saw my dad do it twice), but I don't know how someone could possibly be happy to know so little and be so unengaged in their wife's inner life.
This is a Persona 5 thread kind of right? If so I would like to say that I love Haru!
FOREHEAD
no phone
no friends
no testosterone
The world I want to live and be successful in isn't real
anymore
and there is a group of people who subscribe to a particular ideology keeping it that way.
I'm not even sure if it was ever real
People just have children to try and add a meaning and value to their unsatisfying lives
This.
I want to explore the world and discover the unknown, but you can't do that anymore because everything on this planet is essentially already discovered, and the "unknown" is so minor and small that it doesn't matter anymore.
I can't even do space shit either because its a big fricking void, I'd be long dead by the time we find "Earth 2", and even if we do discover it before I'm dead, I'd still be dead before we ever colonized it.
Speak for yourself homosexual. I had 20+ messages form girls at any given time at some point in my life. I’m currently in a serious relationship, she’s basically my wofe at this point, cooks for me, does whatever I want in sex, its beautiful and femenine, etc. feels good, I might eventually get bored and go back to my old ways pf dating multiple girls but so far so good.
>sex and relationships are a privilege you have to earn
Why do people think this way?
>NOOOOOOO WHY ISN'T EVERYTHING IN LIFE GIVEN TO ME ON A SILVER PLATTER
>I'M SPECIAL
imagine if everything thought the way you thought, moron, nothing would get done, everyone would be sitting in their sad little box wondering why everyone isn't dropping everything they're doing to go make you feel better
Don't misunderstand what I'm saying. Maybe if you want to bang 9/10 instagram models then yeah thinking about sex or dating as things you have to "earn" makes sense, but what about normal guys who just want to date normal girls? Seems like you have to be extraordinary in some way if you don't want to date obese women.
>just become extraordinary
If you respond with this then you don't understand statistics or what a normal distribution is.
It's a result of living in dangerous places like if you live in an inner city surrounded by Black folk. If you just associate with anybody in that situation, you could end up in a bad crowd and it would cost you your life. If we didn't have such problems then there would be basically no cost and people wouldn't treat it like a favor they're doing by talking to you. But no, gotta import millions of violent shitskins from the third world I guess.
>totally unrelated schizo rant about Black folk
actually unhinged lmao
>I had 20+ messages form girls at any given time at some point in my life
>NOOO I DON'T HAVE ANYONE TO LEECH OFF ME AND TAKE UP ALL MY TIME WITH INANE SHIT
Is that supposed to be a bad thing?
>always have been able to make friends easily but don't really end up liking the friends i make very much
does this mean i'm a bad person
Did you move a lot as a kid
only once, also met a lot of new people going from middle school to high school after that, then some more briefly in college
The idea that men can't have friends as adults or while married is made up bullshit by women because they get pissy when men think or pay attention to anything or anyone other than them.
clearly it's propaganda about how being friends with other guys and relying on them when things get tough is turbo gay
seriously, it's like people forgot that at the end of the day, humans are social creatures and the few people that somehow can survive otherwise are the exceptions
Yeah gay = effeminate. Like 99% of shaming about being effeminate that men experience comes from women. That's the reality. I just think men should stop listening to women about how men should act. Especially modern women, who are literally out to destroy all men and believe men deserve death. I don't care what they think.
I've only been called gay by men.
When men call each other gay they literally mean homosexual. When women insult men for being gay they mean effeminate (and thus not worthy of her hole). At least that is my experience.
I was never called effeminate in a bad way, if anything they used it as a conversation piece, and it's always nice seeing the smile of relief when they see I'm not gay.
Alternatively, when I've been called gay, it's always been to bother me, belittle me, some times even put my life in danger by strangers whom couldn't grasp me.
My hands are full, and I've had enough fun outside that it doesn't seem as exciting.
There's a thing for android you can download that makes it look like that. They took it off the google store but it's still out there.
(sorry iphone gays, you're not allowed to customise your 2 thousand dollar phone :^) )
is it possible to make online friends into real friends or does that not go anywhere? also where do you meet them? (good ones at least)
I have a friend who has kind of done this. Met a guy on a rocket league discord server who happens to live pretty close. Hung out over at his house a few times. Guy turned out to be kind of insane though lol.
Yes, but not super likely. The best way to start meeting online friends IRL is at like conventions or events you and your online friend(s) are interested in, assuming you aren't across continents or something.